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Anonymous asked in Social ScienceGender Studies · 1 decade ago

Womens' opinions needed. Afraid to ask?

I have been with my fiancee for a while. Recently, I have taken an interest in the panties that she wears (usually the really pretty, silky ones from victorias secret). I'm so curious to try them on as part of our bedroom activities. I'm totally straight and have no desire to be a woman or anything like that (nor do I want to go around wearing them all day long). Its just that the idea of trying on something of hers thats so intimate and forbidden really excites me. How do I approach her about it? If shes not sure about it or opposed to it, how do I get her to accept it? Please help because its something I really really want to do and share with her (hopefully without freaking her out). Thanks.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Your fiance is a real prude if something like that would freak her out. If you're afraid that doing it seriously would cause problems then do it "jokingly", try to get her to laugh about it. (My husband will walk through busy stores and hold lingerie up in front of himself and ask if it's "his color")

    It's best if you learn your/her boundaries now rather than testing them after you've already married.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Bedroom activities are very tricky when it comes to roleplaying. How is she in other areas of roleplaying, like pretending to be a cop catching a bad guy, or things of that nature? If your relationship is open and she really cares for you and all your quirks then one night just say " how about you play me tonight and i will play you?". Give her a chance to have a dominate role and maybe even spank you or get rough with you. She may like it alot. But if you are feeling apprehensive about this and she is more traditional and reserved introduce her slowly into new ideas in the bedroom. Several books ( with pics ) are out there and movies that arent too tasteless can help ease her into it. A lot of women are brought up to be reserved in the bedroom and not talk about their needs and desires but once you get us going watch out...you may be tied up and spanked all night:O)

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well, of course you run the risk of freaking her out. Theres really no need for her to worry though. Lots of men find women's lingerie extremely sexy & it is a big turn on to them. Perhaps you could start out by playfully grabbing them during foreplay or sex and holding them close to your face. Tell her you like her smell and what she wears is so sexy!! Tell her that her lingirie is one of the things that arouses you most. Then jokingly ask her if it makes her feel horny or sexy when she wears them, and if you could try them on. If she freaks out then...then tell her you're just joking. If she goes along, put hem on and show her how freaking aroused & ready to go you are!! When she sees that maybe it will turn her on too and she will like the new game!!! If she doesnt like the idea at all, you might better find someone more open to a little freaky fettish!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well this depends how liberal your fiancee is, she may even a fetish of her own that she is scared to tell you about.

    If you're worried about her reaction, it's best to ask some other female friends of yours how they would react.

    This fetish, like most fetishes, probably doesn't have anything to do with your sexuality, so all you can do is talk to your fiancee about it and see what she thinks.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Buy your own "try-on" panties from Victoria's Secret, and get over it.....the "thrill" of trying hers on is not worth sacrificing the relationship.

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  • 1 decade ago

    If you two are going to get married then, I would just talk to her about it. And tell her it turns you on, she will feel flattered. I always wished my three exhusbands would have wanted to be that close to me. Maybe, that is why they are ex's!

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  • ?
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    1 decade ago

    well have a couple drinks (together) loosen up get in a playful mood maybe play strip poker and in your slightly tipsy playful mood... bring it up....lol... good luck.. (my husband has worn my panties before, i didnt really care , i though it was kinda funny but nothing more!!!)

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just grab her underwear and put them on. If she freaks about it, then it just goes to show that she does not have a good sense of humour and is totally judgemental.

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  • Steve
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    What is with you weirdos and asking the same question over and over? Do you get off on the answers or something?

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  • 1 decade ago

    I wish I were your girlfriend. You and that other one asking how to get a knee in the groin would be best friends. Thanks for the points!

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