Is it wrong for me to not want my girlfriend in a particular part of my life?

I really haven't been eating so much. Today i fainted and I told her about. We were talking on MSN. And she's still on. So am I. Anyways. She said all this sweet stuff about she cares about me. And I said I know that you do. I said 'oh man i wish i just shouldvnt told you. thank you for everything. lets just drop it"

And she got all mad and stopped talking to me on IM. I just don't want her knowing that part of my life. Hell, it isnt even a part of my life. It's just a phase where I have been stressed. Is it wrong or mean or what to not want her in that "part" of my life?


Well she signed out, but I can always Private Message her.

5 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
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    Yes, it is really REALLY wrong.

    It's just a phase of your life? Bullshit. I call bullshit on that.

    Not eating is serious. I had a roommate who was anorexic and bullemic, had been out of 7 different residential treatment facilities by the time she was 20. She still had to drop out of college to go into another. It started when she was 14 and she insisted it was no big deal or just a phase. If you're not eating to the point of fainting, then it is a big deal and it is not just a phase. You need serious medical and psychological help. Being in denial wont change that, it just puts you at more of a risk for serious and lifelong disease and illness.

    If you don't want to share your life with people, then you need to cut your ties with them. Stop speaking to your family, dump all your friends, ditch your girl, quit your job, and start living in a cardboard box if you don't want people to care about you. Because once you let people like your girlfriend care about you, then they have every right and responsibility to worry, fret, intervene, and stop you when you are doing stupid, hurtful, and destructive things.

    I suggest you remove your head from your butt, stop being so defensive, admitt you have a problem, and let your girlfriend help you through it.

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  • 1 decade ago

    If you don't want your online girlfriend to know you have an eating disorder then simply don't tell her. I would, however, explore the reason why you told her in the first place, were you simply looking for drama or was that a cry for help?

    If you don't have a real time relationship with this person, then you can be anyone or anything you want on the fantasy land of the computer. But if this is a real friend, someone who can reach out and really touch you, then don't get angry at her at being alarmed that you are doing something so destructive.

    Source(s): American Mom
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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Clearly it is part of your life if it affected you so much that you fainted.

    You can choose what you tell her and what you don't. But I don't think you should be surprised if she feels hurt for being left out... or angry because you snap at her for caring.

    IM is a very difficult way to communicate. Sometimes things need to be talked about with real talk. If you care about her, call her and talk to her about what you are feeling.

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  • 1 decade ago

    its not wrong to not wanna tell her. That's a part of ur life that's not too flattering and not to be condescending but u might be feeling a little insecure about it so u'd rather not tell anyone.

    even though she is ur girlfriend, she doesn't have to know everything that's going on in ur life. i rate u must just forget about it and move on, but if she doesn't want to, just talk to her and tell her its not an issue u wanna talk about.

    she should understand. good luck. and EAT!!!

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  • 1 decade ago

    It's up to both of you to decide what sort and how involved a relationship you want. Can't your gf be concerned for you - and upset that you don't want to talk about it?

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