Should i confront him or not?My trust in him is shattering.Please advise..i need help.?

I've been in a good relationship for 4 years.but i recently found out that my boyfriend talks to women online..i.e. dirty talk..n even uses his webcam for this purpose.he doesnt know any of these women personally.And i suspect there's one woman he specially chats with(he even sent her christmas greetings n tells her he misses her!). everything else about our relationship is great(or so i thought,until now!).he loves n cares bout me.and i love him very very much.I always try to keep him happy in every way.I have no idea why this has happened.And it has shattered my trust in him.What should i do? Should i confront him with this issue...or just let things be the way they are,hoping he will get over it in some time...??Even if i do confront him,he might jus change his yahoo id or somethin..n i'll never find out what he's upto.! I love him and i want this to work. how should i talk to him in a manner that really makes a difference?PLEASE help.

Update:

Does his behaviour mean that he has stopped loving and caring bout me?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Depends how you feel sounds like this upsets and bothers you which i think it would me also in that case if it bothers you so much you just cant let it go your gonna need to confront him after all how do you think that he would feel if the tables were turned?you need to sit down and really have an heart to heart with him and Not get all upset with him but at same time get him to understand how you feel w/o blaming him thats just gonna put him on defensive try to use "I" statements it really hurts "me" this way he wont feel blamed and maybe more available to open up and talk to you if you just let this go i think it'll bother you till you take care of it good luck

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    all this call for is a dose of his own medicine...start chatting with other men...enjoy yourself...its kinda fun you know...in the meantime,you'll find your guy green with envy...best thing is...he'l be the one confronting you instead of the other way around....then only you can talk about it...reasonably..good luck....if you're worried about his feelings towards you...then i would suggest you ask him...thats the only way you'll ever find out...and besides its a helluva lot better than keping quiet and wondering the whole time...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Ms; you can Love him all you want but, he may have already cheated on you. If you have doubts and proof what more do you need? Tell him you know and if he changes his ID then you need to change boyfriends. Very simple. It may hurt now but if you continue it will only hurt more later.

    Source(s): Life & COMMON SENSE.
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  • 1 decade ago

    worried for bf! get marry. problem solved

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