What should we do?

A person I've become romantically involved with is having doubts about our future together. We stay up long hours into the morning talking to each other almost every day. We haven't officially said we're exclusive, but that's pretty much how we both are. There are a few things that have made things more difficult for us, and we're trying to work through them.

There are a lot of firsts she won't get to have with me. First real kiss, first lover, first child (I have 2), etc. Those are important to her. She feels she hasn't experienced enough life to be what she is supposed to be for me. She is going to school and has a wonderful future ahead of her. I don't feel like our relationship has to be a hinderage to that, but she isn't so sure.

I care deeply for this young woman, and we don't know what to do. We're happy together, but sometimes she feels our differences are too much to get through. We would like some honest guidance.

5 Answers

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    If you truly care about her, support her in every way. If she choses to go another route, you can still be around for her. It sounds like she needs more time to think this relationship through. Give her his time and if it's meant to be, it will all come together. I wish you both the best of luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think that she is feeling this pressure to conform to the standards of what a normal life is like. Everyone is different for her, she may never be able to experience the things you talked about but if it is truly a good relationship then these things should not bug her and she should just try to make herself happy. I think that if the issues you mention really bug her that much then you should try to have a break and if its really meant to be together she will come back to you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Shame on you, the older person for clearly being the mental superior and playing with her emotions.

    When you say school I sure hope you mean a college.

    "She feels she hasn't experienced enough life to be what she is supposed to be for me.

    Should be changed to:

    "She feels she hasn't experienced enough life to know what she wants"

  • 1 decade ago

    hiii really it sound like your life is way ahead of hers just now as u said your been trough things like having kids where shes not at that point in her life just yet theres nothing stoping u from seeing eachother being good friends the main thing i see is to just give her time and understand her as a friend and see with time if she gets to where u are at in your life too to be togher and in love you need to be on the same page togher or it will be as hard to work out as you see now so be caring friends just give her time wait see and let her find her way to you in life with time .

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  • Rocky
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I think you should respect her feelings and try not to pressure her into things she doesn't want to do. Just try to remain supportive to her.

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