My Ex-boyfriend passed away a few years ago at a young age...?

They say the good die young. BUT Ever since I got the news My life has changed. Im no longer the happy person I once was. I know I should just get over it but I feel I will NEVER get over it. We left on bad terms and it was my fault, a few months later he passed..I didnt get to say sorry and now I suffer the guilt for being the way I was. I wish there was a psychic or something that could tell me if he knows that im sorry...if his spirit is still out there. Then maybe I could rest a little easier.

If anyone has any advice to help cope with a loss and the guilt , please send it my way . thank you

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    the Bible says the dead are sleeping...we must keep on living and pray for strentgth...its a messed up world...time to move forward..ive been thru enough hell for five lifetimes and Im still breathing...find something else to focus on like the living

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  • 1 decade ago

    First, I am so sorry for your loss. And I know how hard it is to lose someone and then feel guilty because you were not on good terms with that person, and now it's too late to resolve it with them. The first thing you must do is to forgive yourself, so that the feeling of guilt can start to go away. It may take a long time, but trust me, it will go away. But the first step is forgiving yourself for it. Then, if you have any other damaged relationships out there, take some time and effort to resolve those now, no matter who was to blame. You will feel better, and the other person will feel better, and it will help you to cope and heal more quickly with the loss you have already suffered. Your clear conscience will also feel much better and healthier. I hope this advice helps you, and I wish you the best in dealing with your loss.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Sorry to hear that. But you don't need a psychic, you really trust those people? They can tell you anything. Everything is not "peachy", and it was meant to happen the way it did, and you can't turn back the hands of time. What I suggest to you is; a therapist! So you can talk out problems. This will help you get better. But if this isn't enough, then I don't know what is! Have a good day, and remember; you have people that love you!!!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It's just something you'll have to live with. We all make mistakes and bad decisions, It doesn't make you a bad person. The guilt is just something you'll have to carry. We all have baggage from our past. Eventually it will get easier to bear. That's life for you. It's full of suffering. Just take the responsibility for your actions. As I said, It gets easier. I'm sorry for your loss. Perhaps in the next life you'll have your chance to apologize and earn his forgiveness. You could always seek spiritual guidance from a religious leader or some kind of medium. There's always comfort in those places. Don't let it drag you down. People are allowed to mess up. Find a way to make your peace and live life. The best of luck to you.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think you are being too hard on yourself. This may be partially influenced by the Neptune/Chiron transit of your 1st house and the Saturn transit of your 7th house.

    Saturn has been in transit of your 7th house of Partnerships since June 2005, testing your close relationships and helping you refine your ideas about partnerships/mates and such. You are past the peak of this Saturn transit, so things should ease up a bit, and Saturn leaves for your 8th house (other people's money, sex taxes) In September 2007, so while you should be finally catching a break on these 7th house issues, you'll be forced to deal with any problems you have in the areas of credit, taxes, or sexual dysfunction

    Since you are feeling how Saturn can force you to deal with unfinished business (in your partnerships now), you';d be advised to look ahead and make sure you aren't running up your credit cards, having one-night stands, or failing to pay your taxes.

    You've had Pluto in your 10th house of career/reputation for the last 11 years, and this is the final year of profound energy in that area, and it's joined by Jupiter this year, so it's a good time to realize your ambitions and promote a better reputation provided you do not do so in an underhanded manner or engage in fierce power struggles to get what you want.

    Neptune is in your 1st house along with Chiron until 2011, so you do not see yourself clearly, you have a strong desire to be 'right". Uranus is in your 2nd house of wealth and posessions until 2011, so there could be sudden changes in your furtunes (make sure you aren't running up a bunch of debt again--sudden changes can be good, but make sure they aren't bad).

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  • mom
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    1 decade ago

    I believe he does know.

    If you just say it out loud even now, I think he will hear it.

    I left some roses on my mother's grave and saw a psychic not long after.

    She told me that my mom thanked me for the roses.

    There have been other things that have happened to let me know she is aware of things I have done and said, it would take too long to tell you all of them.

    I was heartbroken when she died and I wanted to know she was ok.

    She did let me know and even though I still miss her I have peace of mind about it now.

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  • Anonymous
    3 years ago

    What a multitude. i do unlike "boyfriends," and he's no longer a "boyfriend," for one. A "boyfriend" is somebody like Wally Cleaver. maximum relationships at present are strange and strange, and too troublesome to make your strategies up with all of the so-called "exes" in touch (a notice that i do no longer use). i'd advise maximum females to close their legs and proceed to be on my own, like a parakeet in a cage. you opt on a guy such as you opt on a hollow in the pinnacle, and there are so few that are worthwhile that it does not pay to look or hardship approximately it.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well if you have reached out to him and told him you should feel peace with it. There are people out there that can reach out to him u just need to look for them...he may never forget it or forgive but u need to know u are not the reason he passed, live your life and remember him anmd the so called mistakes u made and learn from those.....

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  • 1 decade ago

    How about writing to him. I know this sounds strange but it does work. Write the letter and forgive yourself. That would be the most difficult thing to do but try do it everyday. Remember you could not see into the future but you can learn from the past and remember your friend with kindness and Honor.

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  • 1 decade ago

    In my opinion, no psychic can help. You just have to believe in your self. You have to prove to your self that you're truly sorry and he knows. No psychic can do that for you. Only you. If you know that you're sorry, and you really mean it, thats all you can do. And don't worry, you'll see him some day, and he will tell you he knows.

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