Anonymous asked in Society & CultureReligion & Spirituality · 1 decade ago

Christians- Does not getting along with your mother risk you salvation?

Me and my mother do not get along, and never have. Most of the time I see her I end up swearing at her telling her to F of. She is so anoying and in your face. I want her to leave me alone, for good. Is swearing and yelling at her risking my salvation. Being a christian is a struggle sometimes, as I am human like everybody else. To forgive my mother I would have to not see her. I cannot forgive her is I am still seeing her. If I have to change my phone number again I will, but the anoying person would still come around to my place. I want her to leave me alone. I told her if I had enough money I would move and nobody would know here I am. I just want her to leave me alone so I can focus on my relationship with God. So Christians be honest am I risking my salvation? I can ask God to forgive my attitude to her, but if I end up seeing her again all the hatred starts all over again. I told her that once I am In a box 6 feet under she will not bother me. What do you think?

20 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
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    What a sad situation for both you and her, she must feel at a loss too.

    It's awful that you and your Mum don't get on, but there is no law to say you have to.

    Struggling with your Christainity is very common for us all.

    Why don't you try and treat her like you would an acquaintance, pleasant and with decency.

    Look at her as a person and not your Mother.

  • 1 decade ago

    Remember the basic premise of being a "saved" Christian: accepting Christ as savior. There is no other "requirement" to be saved; most Christians believe that you cannot "lose" your salvation, so long as you believe. You believe, and ask Jesus into your heart and life? You are saved. Period.

    On a more personal note, I, for one, think that if not having contact with your mother is better for your mental, spiritual, and/or physical health, cutting off communications may be the best thing for you to do, both for yourself and for her. Besides, no one says that you can't decide that you want to reestablish communications/contact with her at some later date. Just because you are a Christian does not mean that you must take abuse of any sort. If she is just simply "annoying," there may be other problems between the two of you; maybe time apart would help to clarify why you don't get along.

    Hope this helps.

  • 1 decade ago

    Read Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH."

    God places the responsibility of getting along with your mother on you, not her. How can you claim to be a christian and treat her like that. Paul said 1 Timothy 5:8 "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." Your Christianity starts at home, not by leaving home. John says, 1 John 4:20 If someone says, "I love God," and hates his brother (mother), he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen." I think you need to seriously question your Christianity.

  • kcdude
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I feel that it wouldn't really risk your salvation but I'm sure your situation is frowned upon in God's eyes. Why do you hate her so much in the first place? Is she an alcoholic? Maybe you should try helping her. The Bible does say to honor your father and your mother. Try fixing your problems, you will not regret it. God is very forgiving, try to be more like God and forgive your mother for the things she has done. Make her understand that you love her and you are asking for her to say sorry as well as your forgiveness. God Bless you and your mother and I'll keep you in my prayers.

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  • 1 decade ago

    No, this is not risking your salvation. There is only one unpardonable sin - and that is rejecting the Holy Spirit. It would be good, however, if you could find some release from this bondage you have in your relationship with your mother. Every time you 'loose it' with her, you are hurting yourself at least as much as you hurt her. I'm sure you already know that. Just pray about it, ask God to help you through it, and when you do feel like you've crossed the line, be sure to ask for forgiveness.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Depends of what kind of christian you are. If you are a christian fundamentalist and take the bible literally, according to the old testament you should be taken to the center of the town and get stoned by the old wise men. if you are a moderate christian that sees the bible as a metaphor and try to find guide in it instead of a book of rules to follow, you should be fine. If you are a smart person and don't believe in the junk that the christian mythology is, you'll try to have a peaceful happy life and won't worry about and afterlife that won't happen.

  • 1 decade ago

    Unless she has abused you as a child, you must honour your parents. If you cannot get along with your mother, then ask her to not visit you for say the next 2 weeks or if that is not possible then keep her visits to a 5 minute limit. If all else fails you must learn to turn off and not take in anything she says but you must not abuse her in turn, that is a fault in God's eyes,

  • 1 decade ago

    Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly. Seek Godly counsel from your Church, Pastor, Minister, or Bible believing Brother or sister.

    Even if your salvation was not in jeopardy, your witness is and that may cost the salvation of others. You need to be in some counseling setting to address this issue with your mother. It's hard to believe that you never got along, since she gave birth to you. God says to honor your parents. Why belittle yourself because she makes you feel bad. Resorting to cursing and swearing make you look like the heathen.

    Source(s): Psalm 1
  • 1 decade ago

    A Good Christian does not treat their mother that way. I do not know what your mom did,but no matter what,you are being disrespectful to her. If she needs your help try praying for her.I wish I had my mom around to love and be with,she is dead. You only have one mom in your life. Try to forgive your mom and make peace with her.Good luck and I will think of you in my prayers. Thou Shalt Honor thy Mother and Thine Father. God Bless..

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think you should work on forgiving and getting along with your mom... definitely lose the hatred... maybe you should find a mature Christian, a counselor perhaps and see how you can respect and honor your mom without her driving you nuts.

    try praying for her regularly for starters

    you might not have liked everything your mom did or dies... but face it... she didn't do everything wrong... try focusing on the one or two things she did best when you get aggravated

    Source(s): "when a mans ways are right with the Lord He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him" Proverbs
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