When do you call it quits after 10 yrs, 2 kids?

Is it when there's

Lack of communication;

Separate bedrooms;

or Wait for Infidelity?

When should you just give up and get on with life?

13 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    If you have to ask us, you have the answers but your afraid of the consequences. Go for it.

  • 1 decade ago

    Did you describe your currant situation?? You have to work at a good marriage--look for the goodness that brought you togeather along time ago--try and rekindle that by taking a long three or four day vacation (kid free) and go somewhere relaxing and romantic--I have been married 19 years and we kiss each other good-bye when we leave the house and hello when we return--we vocalize the I Love YOU'S on the phone--we go out at least 2 times a month just for a cocktail or a bite to eat-- Oh no it has been very bad at times--and we have almost called it quits--but the bottom line is this--go ahead get a devorce start over get someone new someone hot and all that--you think its gona stay that way?? You think there isnt going to be things that piss you off or boar you? Be sure that all you have done is change faces and a new set of problems ---So why not just work through the ones you have with the face you have--you loved him enough to marry him--think of him being with someone else--could you stand that?? I mean really could you?? You say get on with life--humm a single Mom --thats not a piece of cake--I am sorry I am thinking you are the wife?? and if not it doesnt matter that much man or woman all that I have stated applyed to both--so think hard about it and just how many times are you willing to quit and start over--when are you going to be ready to make a real commitment?? Dont you ever want to celebrate a 50th anniversary?? With all the kids and grandkids heck by then it could be great grands who knows!!! People are people and its never going to be always exciting unless you work at it --

  • 1 decade ago

    Owch! I think you are ready to move on. Why have you waited so long? The kids, right? What about you? Are you ready to go on for the sake of going on? Trite, I know. It's hard to call it off after all of the time you have put into the relationship but do you remember that high you got when you were in love? It's not too late for you to have that again. Don't wait any longer. You are on a short ride here so quit being miserable. You can be happy alone or you can find another partner. Don't spend another night in a monogamous relationship where you sleep alone.

  • 1 decade ago

    Before you leave go take a good long look in a mirror.

    Ask yourself how large a role you had in this.

    Communication takes two, seperate bedrooms? Who started that? I'll bet not him.

    Infidelity, that's a result of seperate bedrooms.

    You have not detailed what was done to try to change this situation and why it failed.

    From here this sounds like you gave up and are looking for excuses and support for your quitting entirely. Sorry not from me.

    If you threw in the towel without making a much greater attempt than you seem to have shame on you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Have you tried marriage counciling? That may help!!! If after trying the counciling and nothing has changed, than maybe you need to get a divorce! Do not stay together for the kids or because you have been together for a long time!!! Be honest with yourself and decide what will make you happy!

    Source(s): Married for 5 yrs
  • 1 decade ago

    Then it's time to call it quits, just make it as painless as possible and always think of the kids.

  • 1 decade ago

    Only you can answer that. If you're truly unhappy, then leave. You're not doing your kids any favors by staying in an unhappy marriage...they can tell anyway. Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you have to ask complete strangers for advice, I think it's time you start over and find peace ASAP . Good luck.

  • OC
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    separate bedrooms for sure.

  • 1 decade ago

    When your hearts become hardened towards one another.

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