is it ok for me to dress in tight jeans and similar traditionally effeminate clothing styles?
I know this is kinda silly after posting the last question, but I want to see how others view this as I really have never gotten feedback from anyone else on their opinions of tight jeans, soft jackets (like velvety material), etc. on guys. I am bi, and I wear the above types of clothes, because it makes me feel good and more true to myself when I do; however, I am not transsexual. Am I overdoing it and pushing the gay image too much even if I only wear the clothes to make me feel better about myself or...(insert opinion here)? I know I'm insecure lol, so please no insults, if you want to criticize, please do so constructively and not gay-bashing. Thanks for your responses!
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Are you really asking other people if it's okay?! Of course it is! It's okay to wear whatever you want! Obviously you know that there will be people who aren't used to it who will give you strange looks or maybe even make comments, but who cares? I hate to sound cheesy, but do you honestly value the opinions of anyone who would judge you solely on your clothing? Kudos to you for wearing what makes you feel good, even if it's not "the norm." Be yourself and you will always be happier and more comfortable.
- dani_kinLv 61 decade ago
I think you need to deal with your insecurity issues because this question is really silly.
Who gives a **** if you like "soft velvety jackets"? I mean really, are the velvet jacket police gonna come to your house? Obviously you wear clothes that make you feel good to make you feel better about yourself.... who wears clothes they hate to feel better about themselves?
Wear what you want to wear and stop expanding so much energy worrying about other people thinking you're *gasp* taking gayness too far. The proper response to those people is "You can blow me". If you gain confidence, strength, and happiness from your tight pants, then wear them!
- 1 decade ago
::takes your hand and squeezes it because it you sound so gentle::
Anywho, no, you're alright. I think lots of "emo" guys wear tighter jeans that sit low on the waste with white studded belts and velvet jackets...and they're straight...right? So you should be allowed to also! I think it's super cute. I really wouldn't worry as much about pushing a gay image out as I would be worried about making sure I was comfy and happy. So, just wear what makes you feel good, like you've been doing. I bet you're just darling.
- glassnegmanLv 51 decade ago
Of course it's OK....LOL
Like Ben Franklin said (who often received visitors in the nude, BTW), "To thine own self be true".......
If you are a little insecure, then wearing things that make you feel better about yourself will only help.
Even though I'm not "Bi" (gawd, I hate labels.....we are a "pansexual animal after all"......) I always liked High-heel boots as a young man....Demi boots, with the high wooden heel, and the pointed toe.....they were definitely way effeminate for my crowd, and people noticed...LOL But I still felt good wearing them.
Namaste, and Happy New Year,
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- DrewLv 51 decade ago
No one Else's opinion matters, you should wear what you want, say what you want etc because your expressing your true self, don't lie to yourself because of what others say. Believe it or not theirs even straight guys that wear tight clothing and wear stuff others would label as "gay"
Above all be yourself, never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no ones definition of your life; define yourself.
- 1 decade ago
Not only is it OK but I think your awesome,I've never seen the rule books myself stating what boys and girls have to wear. Our lives are fairly short and it would be a crying shame to live it in the eye's of bigots and narrow minded people. Be happy and live your life in the way you feel comfortable with yourself. Remember if other people have a problem with the way you dress, it's just that- they have a problem NOT you!Source(s): Years of therapy
- 1 decade ago
Wear what you want, if you like the way you look in int you don't need other people's approval, As long as your happy and not hurting others who cares if you wear a mumu with pink g-string and 7 inch stilettos
- 1 decade ago
No, it's absolutely verboten. Only straight-leg jeans and t-shirts, and no pink ones at that. F*ck 'em, dude. Wear what you want. Believe me, once you leave high school and enter college, you will stop wondering about things like this.
- KedarLv 71 decade ago
When you stand in front of a mirror, do you like what you see? Once you are comfortable wearing whatever you wear, you don't really need other people's approval.
- ZLv 51 decade ago
Who cares what you wear as long as you like it right?
I mean,.. I walk around in a tube top, frilly skirt, shower shoes, and a gorilla mask every saturday,... just because it makes me feel free from the world and no other reason :)...