Thinking about getting divorce...?

I have been married for about 6 years. About 3 years ago, I discovered my husband's drug addiction. His addiction to drug got really bad after that, so me and my husband side of family talked and decided it best for my husban to move to his parent home, so he can remove himself from the bad environment and friends. He went to rehab and come back to live with me 4 months later.....He was doing very good (drug free and working hard) until November of this year. But I started to see weired behavior from him again, and find out he went back to his old habit. Drug is evil!! I really do care about him and I want to help him, but I really don't want to go through same thing I went through few years ago.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    He is going to have to hit rock bottom --that means loosing it all --you ,his folks , his job, his home--and then maybe he will choose to get help and stay clean--you don't have to divorce him but do protect yourself--close all your joint banking acct. and credit cards--change the locks on the house (after you ask him to leave) and get a legal separation so that you are not held responsible for any debts he might run up after he is on his own----Its not going to be easy but its tough love --and remember right now he is in love with the drugs and if it gets bad enough he will steal from you or anyone else he can--

    Source(s): Married and kicked to the curb my husband after 6 years He got clean and has been for the past 12 years--
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  • 1 decade ago

    Here is some Bible Answers you may want to ponder :)

    Good Luck and Happy New Year!

    Faults

    How should we respond to faults we see in others? It's in the Bible, Matthew 7:1-2, NIV. "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

    We should respond to others' faults with mercy and patience. It's in the Bible, Ephesians 4:2, TLB. "Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love."

    Is it ever right to tell a brother of his faults? It's in the Bible, Matthew 18:15, NIV. "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over."

    In what spirit should this work of pointing out faults be done? It's in the Bible, Galatians 6:1-3, TLB. "Dear brothers, if a Christian is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help him back onto the right path, remembering that next time it might be one of you who is in the wrong. Share each other's troubles and problems, and so obey our Lord's command. If anyone thinks he is too great to stoop to this, he is fooling himself. He is really a nobody."

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  • 1 decade ago

    Sometimes people have to go to rehab multiple times until they get and stay clean. It's an everyday battle. He has to want to quit, no one can make him. If you don't think you can go through it again, by all means, start divorce proceedings. He's basically choosing drugs over his life & marriage and there's not a whole lot you can do about that unless he wants to change.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You should pray for him so that God can help him get over his addiction..Drug is a powerful sin and can bring you downhill real bad...

    You need to pray for him..ask God to protect him, to show him the right way he should go, to show him the damage he is doing to himself, ask God to give him a wake up call that will be enough to scare him and make him turn away from drugs. Dont just pray once..it has to be a constant thing.

    Pray for yourself so that God can tell you what YOU should do to help..if you should stay with him. if you should not.

    I know of a lady and man that were married and the man had a drug addiction..real bad ! he used to hide drugs on his baby's crib! ..they didnt divorce..but she kicked him out of the house..every single day she prayed for him..she prayed for herself..and everyone else that was involved in his life...it took 5-6 years for him to get completely of drugs..and now he is back home..has a great job and happy family..now im not saying its going to take that long for your hubby to leave the drugs..im telling you it is possible for him to get off them.. and it does help to pray.

    Goodluck =]

    Source(s): The example of the family I mentioned =]
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  • 1 decade ago

    You can't live like this. You can't have kids in this relationship, you can't count on him to not use all your money on drugs and leave you homeless. You aren't his mom. You need to have him move out. If he cleans up again and rebuilds his life on his own and stays drug free then consider taking him back if you both still want that. He needs to take care of himself for a while.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Drugs are a sickness and your vows said in sickness and in health, don't bail out on him, you need to let him know that you will have to separate if he does not seek immediate help. Sometimes unconditional love is the only thing that can pull someone out of a bad situation. But this is just my opinion, only you know what you can and can not bare!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Simple answer is don't Throw him out now and get rid of the loser.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    What kind of drugs?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you dont have kids.......DUMP the LOSER !!

    Don't just pretend to Divorce, DO IT !!!

    druggies NEVER change, sadly.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    tough love baby....... it is tough love....... get out and he will have to either sink or swim.... but not drown you both

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