what should i do?

I've been going out w/ my bf for half a year. I've met his whole family including aunts and uncles. I'm muslim so my parents would like me to be intrested in muslim guys . They both know im seeing someone whos not muslime.My mom doesnt like the fact that i have a boyfriend and would like me to break up with him cause ive been slacking from school.But my bf wants to meet my parents and i want them to meet but im embarresed of them i think my mom would come off mean or rude and his family is so nice i dont know what to do?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    im muslim too..i know how it feels..just bring him over..and speak in your own language to your parents..if anything goes wrong..you can signal him to go or something.. i know its hard to be part of a muslim family...

  • RR
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Where Did Allah Come From?

    by Robert A. Morey

    © 1996 Research and Education Foundation

    Muslims worship a god by the name of Allah. They also give him ninety-nine other names. The question that naturally arises is who or what is this Allah? Where did the Muslims derive their ideas of Allah's nature and attributes?

    Historical Source of Islam

    Historians, linguists, and archeologists have dug into this question for over a century. Various archeological digs in Arabia and throughout the Middle East have uncovered the answer: Islam is a modern version of the ancient fertility religion of the moon god. Once this is grasped, the rise and history of Islam becomes clear.

    The Arab conquests were made possible because the central powers in the Middle East had exhausted themselves in wars against each other. They were not able to fight off wave after wave of Arab armies which subdued entire nations with merciless slaughter, rape and plunder.

    Conquering Armies

    The Arabs destroyed some of the wonders of the ancient world such as the world famous library in Alexandria, Egypt, They destroyed many ancient churches and synagogues. Anthropologists have recorded how the Arabs destroyed the cultural heritage of any nation which fell under their sword.

    Who were these Arabs? They obviously were not Christians because they destroyed churches and murdered priests wherever they went. Obviously, they were not Jews because they persecuted Jews without pity. This is seen today in their hatred of Israel and the many wars and acts of terrorism waged against Jews throughout the world.

    If the Arab hordes which swept over the ancient world were not Christians or Jews, then what were they? They were pagans who worshipped a pagan god called Allah and followed pagan rites which were practiced in Arabia long before the religion of Islam evolved.

    Islam Denies the Trinity

    These facts of history reveal that Islam does not worship the same God worshipped by Christians. Why?

    Christians worship one God in three persons: the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. But Islam denies the Holy Trinity and worships a different deity called Allah who is not a Father and who has no son.

    Since the religion found in the Bible teaches the Trinity, then it does not take a Ph.D. to see that Islam did not come from the Bible. Thus it is not the religion of the biblical prophets, apostles or Jesus.

    Pagan Origins

    Islam's origins have been traced back by scholars to the ancient fertility religion of the worship of the moon god which was always the dominant religion of Arabia. The moon god was worshipped by praying toward Mecca several times a day, making an annual pilgrimage to the Kabah which was a temple of the moon god, running around the Kabah seven times, caressing an idol of a black stone set in the wall of the Kabah, running between two hills, making animal sacrifices, gathering on Fridays for prayers, giving alms to the poor, etc.. These were pagan rites practiced by the Arabs long before Muhammad was born.

    The Crescent Moon

    What religion today practices the pagan rites of the moon god? Islam! This explains why the crescent moon is the symbol of Islam. It is placed on top of mosques and minarets and displayed on hats, flags, rugs, amulets and even jewelry. Every time you see the Muslim symbol of a crescent moon, you are seeing the ancient symbol of the moon god.

    Denial Not a Refuge

    Does the average Muslim know that he is worshipping a moon god? No. Does he know why the crescent moon symbol sits on top of his mosque? No. Is he shocked and perhaps angered at these facts of history? Yes. But can mere denial or angry threats refute the fact that Islam is nothing more than a modern version of the ancient religion of the moon god Allah? No. The average Muslim has been kept in the dark by the Mullahs and Imams who would lose their power if the truth ever got out.

    Worship the True God

    Dear Muslim friend, instead of worshipping a false moon god called Allah, you should worship the God of the Patriarchs, prophets, and apostles. This one true God is the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Read the New Testament for it is the true Word of God.

  • 1 decade ago

    Tell him what you think you expect to happen, as you want to be known and know your parents, so is not a surprise when that is to happen. At least he would expect it and would be like a coo-shin and ain't gonna have all bad effects which can come when is an surprise. Making this with him why do not try it with your parents, tell them by comparison with his, because you do not want to be shamed by theirs attitude.They will understand that.

    And keep your grades high, having an boyfriend does not mean you do not do your homework at least, or you do not have time to read the next day lesson, do not make that a reason for your study.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    There is an old saying that is true. When you marry someone, you marry his/her relatives also. It is not wisdom to pursue a relationship with someone if all parties involved are not in agreement. Especially if there are religious differences. Play this out in your mind and imagine what problems this could cause for you and your children. Parents know alot more than you think. They are not always right and dont always understand you, but they have been around alot longer than you and their opinions should atleast be considered to see if there is any wisdom in what they say.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Hello =)

    Just because your mother doesn't like "the idea" of him, it doesn't mean she won't like "him"....

    She may very well love the boy, once she gets to know him. If she does, some of her objections may fade away, to some degree.

    I'd arrange a meeting soon, if I were you. Just warn your boy that you cannot guarantee how things will go.....and that "the opinions expressed by your parents are not necessarily those of you, or anyone else that you know...LOL"

    Namaste, and Happy New Year,


  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Tell your bf exactly what you told us. Honesty is the best policy. He'll understand how your situation. If he still insists on meeting them then he'll have a heads up on what to expect and won't take your mom's rudeness too personally.

  • avavu
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Just tell him your parents are not ready.Boyfriends will come and go.Your parents will always be there for you.Just compromise them and give them a little bit more time.

  • 1 decade ago

    It doesn't matter about religion. What matters is- the school work. Get good grades, then when your older, more mature- earning - you get to make your rules. Concentrate on the school work for now!

  • 1 decade ago

    well if you and your boyfrind are that close with each other you should explain before hand what you parents might do and that they are a bot weird but they just have towarm up to him

  • 1 decade ago

    Parents are first.

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