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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

Would it be best to go through counseling before getting married? Does it work?

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    I think pre-marriage counseling is a GREAT idea. I have been married for only 5 months & i wish I would've done that.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Pre-marital counseling sounds like a great idea...but there is a catch.

    Are you both of you open to the idea ? If so, there is a possibility that it will work for both of you...

    But most of the time, the engaged couple is in an "idealization" stage and the counseling MAY NOT get through... because the couple thinks, "Awww, not us...I love him/her too much to do ....that..." and so on... and it goes right over their heads. I would advise that they do counseling early in the marriage...after the first two years, when they realize their marriage isn't what they thought it would be...and of course, before, if both partners are open to it.

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  • kozel
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    Do you've topics that choose counseling? If that answer is, "NO", then there extremely is not any reason.. the basically "choose" for counseling is that if there are elements of conception or habit that are critically diverse most popular you to trust they are in many circumstances a difficulty interior the destiny (close to or a procedures). If neither of you've established activities, or inclinations that seem to reason a difficulty because the different has a critically diverse view factor, then you extremely are ok.. Small stuff may be worked out between your selves. If the affection is reliable sufficient so can massive issues besides the indisputable fact that the counseling can help shorten the alignment or corrective procedure. attempt to manage all important topics earlier than time.. What church, little ones/no little ones, occupation vs kin, who handles the funds and how. the position to stay, the position to bypass for kin holidays.. there are quite some issues that you may make certain up the front. If there are topics with different personality features, attempt to iron those out or be set to stay with them.. save in options, human beings would replace yet they don't benefit this over evening or because some different person needs them to.. they basically do it because they favor to and of their personal time. If there are massive gaps then evaluate beforehand hand if marriage with this man or woman is a thanks to bypass.

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  • 1 decade ago

    The best way to find out if you get along before getting married is to move in together. Counseling can't hurt but moving in together is the way to go.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Counseling is a great idea. It can really help understand each other better and if there are any problems they can be nipped in the bud right then and there. It is also a great way to let you see what marriage is about and how to work out problems.

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  • sunny
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Yes by all means but make sure you find a really good counselor. If you don't feel a sense of accomplishment after your second or third visit then change counselors because you have to be with someone you can both relate to. It does work and can give you some meaningful tools to use in the marriage.

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  • 1 decade ago

    this is in my opinion really important. the mediator goes over the important issues with you and lets the 2 of you talk it out and see how you both feel on certain issues; children, how you will handle money (money causes a lot of fights in marriages) alcohol, as well as feelings towards future in laws among other things that ( i guarantee) you will fight about in your marriage together.

    the most important part of marriage counseling is knowing how to LISTEN... not only that but to properly understand what your spouse is trying to communicate to you. if you two can communicate effectively it will make your marriage that much better.

    Source(s): me myself and i
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  • 1 decade ago

    I think pre-marital counseling is good. It allows you to get things out in the open and explore ideas that you may not have otherwise brought up.

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  • 1 decade ago

    yes. make sure you see a relationship, financial and a spiritual counselor. these are the three success points in a marriage. without covering these most fail.

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  • 1 decade ago

    my wife & i did, married for 6 years, been divorced for 10.

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