should i stay r go?

I m w/ my child's father but also first love who cheated he confessed after i found the letter he told me he wasn't ready for a committment and he didn't want any one else to have me even though that may sound selfish it made me feel good. I want to work it out because i do still luv him and for the sake of our child but i don't know if its will be the same eventhough right now. SHOULD I STAY R GO?

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  • Becca
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    One of the biggest mistake that people make is to stay in a bad relationship for the children's sake... Yes children do need a mother and father but it does not mean that you have to be stuck in a bad relationship because of it becuase in the end you it will do more harm to your child than good.

    IF you see that he might do it again I will leave becuase you and your child do not deserve that. The love you have for him will not be enough to fix things if he is not willing to committ to only you!!! Best of luck to you :)

  • 1 decade ago

    A man that doesn't want a commitment with the mother of his child is no man, any animal would do that, but people are not animals, even though some times we act like them.

    Do you want a relationship without a commitment? Without faithfulness? If you are willing to put up with him and take upon yourself a life of bitterness and raise your kid that way, then stay.

    Don't think you love him, you're probably with him 'cause he is your last resort. But there is no such a thing as "last resort" as long as you're alive.

    Make sure you make wise decisions. God Bless.

  • 1 decade ago

    This will always be between the two of you no matter how hard you try to let it go. The relationship will only get worse because he has violated the trust that you had and so you will never be sure what he is doing when he is not with you. Only you can make that decision to stay or go but if I were in your place I would go because once the trust is broken what is left?

  • 1 decade ago

    Leave!!! love is never suppose to hurt especailly the pain that one recevies from being cheated on. I know from personal experience. Take your child and move on. Improve yourself and your wellbeing. You never need a man to complete you sweetie. It will be very hard to do and I know you don't want to hear it but if he doesn't think he's ready to settle down then you need to continue on with out him. Who knows, maybe the man of your dreams will be right around the corner looking for the same thing that you are looking for! Whatever you may decide to do about your situation, please take care.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Is he still carrying on the affair, or was this a long time ago? You need to ask yourself if you can ever trust him again, because if you can't you shouldn't not be in this relationship. Don't stay because of the child, if your relationship turns ugly because of the affair it could harm your child more than to live separate lives and be civil to each other

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  • 1 decade ago

    Keep in contact with the father but not romantically...tell him how you child is doing wait until he is ready to committ...but GO...its you life think about what is best for your child

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You can't speak or spell in proper english so I don't think you are ready for a long term relationship with anyone. Leave the cheating bast*rd and find someone that will love you for YOU. Bad grammar and all.

    jk girl, but really, don't stay with a dude that cheats on you. That isn't cool.

  • 1 decade ago

    yes that is what you do stay with him a little longer, get hurt a lot more, and then finally you will wake up and see reality and eventually leave because you know that you can do better than a selfish, egotistical jerk that is using you as a door mat and knows how to keep you by saying things like " I do not want any one else to have you, and you mistaken it as love.

  • 1 decade ago

    in making any decesion, you need to put the child first.

    Will your realtionship by staying hurt the child in any manner,

    if you feel this can bring emotional harm to the child by what you too say,act and argue about, then perhaps you need to go for the welfare of the child.

    People seem to fail to realize how things like this can effect a child and cause them emotional harm

    Do some thinking before you act.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    You should go until he is ready to commit. His relationship with his child has little to do with you and your child should not be used as bait to keep him committed to you.

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