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Anonymous asked in Society & CultureReligion & Spirituality · 1 decade ago

Christians that get married more then once?

I know alot of supposedly bible believing christians that have been married and divorced and Remarried...often to divorced peeople.

Can A Bible-believing christian really get married and divorced all they want? Is this pleasing to God?

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PAUL CYP

the catholic church is the worst of all,,,they grant divorces and remarriage all the time! But they call them "annulments"!!!!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    i thought they could not get a divorce

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I do believe marriage is a sacred ordinance, and when performed by the right authority, can be for time and all eternity.

    I do not think God approves of people marrying and divorcing out of convenience. But, I am not the judge thank heaven.

    Marriage is important and should not be entered into or out of lightly.

    My parents were divorced when i was 2 months old. Their marriage had no future, she wanted a family and he wanted to stay married but each "live their own life". They were sealed in the LDS temple. My mother was remarried, received a temple divorce which is not an easy process, and was sealed to her new husband.

    I do not think the Lord looks down on that. I know that she was doing what was best for her family and children. They have been married for 25 years and are sealed for time and all eternity.

    Source(s): LDS.org
  • BJ
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    There is and answer to your question, it's found in the Bible.

    God, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate, and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry, or the death of the husband or the wife..

    In addition, the Bible’s words at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, while encouraging marriage mates to stay together, allow for separation. Some, after trying very hard to preserve their marriage, feel they have no choice but to separate. What can be acceptable Scriptural grounds for such a step?

    One is willful nonsupport. When getting married, a husband assumes the responsibility of providing for his wife and children. The man who willfully fails to provide the material necessities of life “has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) So separation is possible.

    Another is extreme physical abuse. So then, if a mate physically abuses his wife, the victim may separate. (Galatians 5:19-21; Titus 1:7) “Anyone loving violence [God’s] soul certainly hates.” Psalm 11:5.

    Another ground for separation is the absolute endangerment of a believer’s spirituality, one’s relationship with God. When a mate’s opposition, perhaps including physical restraint, has made it impossible to pursue true worship and has imperiled the believer’s spirituality, then some believers have found it necessary to separate. Matthew 22:37; Acts 5:27-32.

    However, if divorce is pursued under such circumstances, one would not be free to enter a new marriage. According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or “fornication.” Matthew 5:32.

    The Bible allows only one reason for getting a divorce that frees a person to remarry, and that is fornication (Greek, porneia, gross sexual immorality). If fornication is committed, then the innocent mate may decide whether to get a divorce or not. Matthew 5:32.

    After telling the Pharisees that the Mosaic concession of divorcing their wives was not the arrangement that had prevailed “from the beginning,” Jesus said: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Mt 19:8, 9)

    Marriage involves two people with differing personalities learning to develop common interests and working together toward common goals. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, not a casual agreement that can be lightly abandoned. In many countries, divorce is not difficult to obtain, but in the eyes of a Christian, the marriage relationship is sacred. It is ended only for a very serious reason. (Matt. 19:9) Christian spouses can avail themselves of wise counsel from the Bible, support from fellow Christians, and a close, prayerful relationship with God. A successful marriage endures, and over the years, it brings happiness and contentment to husband and wife. More important, it brings honor to God, the Originator of marriage.

    Source(s): Reasoning from the Scriptures
  • 1 decade ago

    1. Marriage is more about your ability to keep your commitment to your wife through the preserverence of God, ie. "no man or woman is tempted beyond that which they can bear" I Cor. 10:13.

    2. In reality what drives people to do what they do can be found within themselves. We all have desires some stronger than others some mastered some not... James puts it pretty blunt in verse 13.... When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

    3. Sin brings death. Death of the relationship in this case for those who have been divorced. This death can cause some pretty severe spiritual trauma that may take years to heal... if ever.

    4. However Jesus healed people and resurrected them!! I believe it comes down to each his own.... I don't necessarily believe that divorce is an option only because I stand on the fact that God is able to resurrect anyone's situation...

    5. As far as whether that person can marry and remarry at will... I think that person would be hard pressed to find a single pastor that would perform more than one marriage for them.... typically I have found that these are people who have either yet to find themselves or should invest in a good marriage and family counselor.

    Source(s): http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Cori... do a search for the other references above...
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  • 1 decade ago

    The Bible does have something to say about divorce, In Mark 10 2-12, a man asks Jesus if it is legal for a man to divorce his wife, and jesus asks what the law says. The man replied that a man could give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her off. Jesus says that this was because at that time, the hearts of the Israelites were hard and that In marriage, two fleshes become one, and cannot be separated. He goes on to say that anyone who divorces his wife and takes another commits adultery.

    Source(s): The Bible, with assistance (in finding the verses) from Strong's Concordance
  • 1 decade ago

    God 'hates' divorce.

    The bible has a lot of good advise. It doesn't mean that everyone will follow it, or even truly understand why they should.

    With divorce come more opportunity for pain, suffering, hate, resentment, focus turns away from God, and selfishness surfaces.

    I almost divorced this year, due to selfishness, anger, bitterness, resentment. But going against all logic, and following the advice in the bible, we went to counseling and are very happy.

    Just because one gets married and divorced, it doesnt mean that they are gonna go to hell. We as humans do things all the time that is displeasing to God. Its how we try to make up for it that counts.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If a man and a woman are married, and one is a non-believer and abandons the other, and the other tries everything they can to reconcile the marriage, but the non-believer won;'t do it, then it is okay to divorce. The only other lawful reason for divorce is unfaithfulness, or abuse. Other then that, it is not okay. When you marry someone, you are making a promise to God to be with that person through the hard times, and the easy, sickness and health, etc etc...Words mean things, if you don't hold to them, you are lying to God, and breaking your promise.

  • 1 decade ago

    I personally dont believe so... Jesus spoke about remarriage being adultery more than once so He probably didnt agree with multiple marriages either. I cant tell you WHY it seems to be so overlooked in the Churches and yet homosexuality is "a big sin" when both adultery and homosexuality are considered "abominations". For me though, I want people to be happy and I never interfere with their relationships so long as both parties are in agreement and of legal age.

  • 1 decade ago

    My first wife left me for her childhood sweetheart after 10 Years of unfaithful Marriage to me. I did nothing to cause the divorce. I am remarried to the most Awesome Women I've ever known. She's the love of my life, and my best friend.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    What does not please God is when we follow human will and marry because of our own reasons. Needless to say, this kind of a marriage is not a match made in heaven. Young Christians are not perfect and they too do not know how to listen to God, and many do not want to anyway at that point, and so end up in a man-made marriage that will fail. To marry again, one must learn that the small voice within is to be obeyed and must wait patiently for God to reveal His will. It pleases God that we be honest and truthful in love, and not fall to temptation of the old man over and over again.

  • 1 decade ago

    You can't do it in the Church Christ founded. Catholics take marriage vows seriously. In a manmade church of course you can do whatever the current leadership will allow. Some Christian churches even ordain lesbian bishops.

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