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you know what i just realized?

breaking up with my ex was probably the best thing i ever could have done. i am so much stronger now. i don't need to be with someone because i am afraid to be alone. i'm surviving by myself, i might not be happy but i am doing it. when asked what i wanted most out of life, my answer has always been happiness. so it makes sense that i wouldn't be happy now, because then i would have nothing to live for, nothing to work toward. if i was still with him, we would be together, but he would still be screwing around behind my back. that is worse. i would rather be alone than lonely. and he probably would have convinced me to give my son up for adoption, so i wouldn't even have him. so yeah, i would have a boyfriend, but i wouldn't be happy in that situation either. but i feel free, and that's pretty damn close to happy.

anyone else ever feel like this?

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  • WINGS
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    Well I wasn't happy in my marriage and he always made me feel bad about myself and stuff and then he was doing stuff with other people and lying about it. I kicked him out and I have been so happy ever since then. I swear I am becoming who I was before I met him. Yeah I was sad and didn't want to be a lone but I knew the relationship was doomed to fail, but now I have my daughter and I love her so much. It's okay to be single some times we feel alone but really I think that there is some one in store for me yet. maybe I already know him and maybe we are having coffee tommorow I don't really know all I know is I need to focus on God, my family, work, and school.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I'm happy for you!

    I know the feeling! As much as it hurt then, now (2 years later) it's the best thing I did. I felt the same way you did. Strong, confident, and nothing can bring me down. When I broke up with my ex I grew into a woman. Something I wouldn't have done still being with him. With him I was insecure, couldn't trust him, and having that feeling is the worst. I have to be happy for me and I want him to be happy too. Even now I still feel that way. I don't know what he is doing now, or where he's gone but, I hope and wish him well.

    Even if he did break my heart once or twice. =) Now my heart belongs to someone else who loves me like I thought I could never be loved again! =)

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  • 1 decade ago

    When my ex and I broke up I realized I was better without him. He left me six weeks pregnant. At first I didn't know how to deal with it but after I looked back at how he treated me and how he reacted to the pregnancy I realized that I was better alone that with being someone who was emotionally abusive. I was at least able to have that mental clarity finally and to see what was really important in my life. He and I wanted two different things. I wanted a family. I didn't care so much about having to have it all, having to spend years in college. That was what he wanted and we just weren't compatible. I still have to see him and now all I see is an arrogant, self absorbed snob...I am so glad we didn't get married! Now I have a great guy I've been married to for 9 years who cares about me and our five kids. He treats my oldest child as his own and he's a good guy...plus he's not a mama's boy like my ex...

    I am glad that you saw the light!!! Good for you!!! :-)

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  • I found that it is better to be happy with self that a self depreciation that comes with being abused and or sad with the situation that you are in. I am happy I made the decision

    I woudl also like to be alone instead of being really sad and depressed.

    After years of depression I finally feel better now about me and the decisions I have made.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Good for you, Pikachu! Hang in there, stay strong, and you will gain happiness. Happiness comes from within..........not from someone else. Become happy with yourself and when the time is right you will find that special partner to share that happiness with. In the meantime, concentrate on yourself and that little miracle son you have.

    Best wishes to you! :)

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  • 1 decade ago

    Oh yeah sounds like you have your life headed in the right direction. You said that you are not happy but it sounds to me like you are going to get there. Good luck and stay strong.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Good for you, young lady, more power to you, the right man for you will come along, do not worry, you seem to be an outstanding intelligent and a great mom.

    Good luck

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  • mjm52
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Bravo!!!! Hooray!!! You've got it and you're still young. Each day you will get stronger and poof one day you'll look up and say I'm happy!!! I'm really and truly happy!!! I'm so glad for you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Go on! Good for you. I was much happier when I left my ex. Didn't have two pennies to rub together but I was happier!

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  • 1 decade ago

    i just dis the same thing ....im happy ...we still live together ..we both do our thing ...and now we get along great ....we are best friends now....we are still going out new years eve ...we go to swingers clubs ..and have fun

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