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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingToddler & Preschooler · 1 decade ago

Potty Trainning for 3 yr olds?

My son is 3, and refuses to be potty trained, he understands it but won't use it, I have tried everything and don't know what to do anymore any suggestions on what to do?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    it was hard for me to potty train my son also, he would not use the potty he had to use the big boy pot. The strangest thing he would not stand up to the pot he had to sit and stick it between his legs. (he imitated what he saw) (single mom). Take him to the bathroom with you so the he can see what is suppose to happen in there. :) He was about 3 1/2 before he started standing up to go.

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  • 1 decade ago

    In some cases, the reason your toddler won't go potty is because he's scared of it. I use to take the potty into whatever room my son was in. His pooh bear use to go potty too! He'd leave pooh on the potty and either myself or my husband would go in and put water in the potty. We'd give lots and lots of praise to pooh bear for using the potty. We spent a lot of time talking to him about the potty and how proud we would be if he were to use the potty. He'd also come into the bathroom if I was on the potty or my husband was using the potty, I always made him leave before I got up, but he'd say things like "yay, mommy's using the potty". Never yell at him about the potty. Do not use pullups, get the cloth training pants so that he can feel himself when he's wet. Take the potty into the bedroom at night and set it near his bed. Make sure there's a good night light in the room. My son never wet the bed. Each night set it further and further away. Make sure he knows exactly where it is before he goes to bed. Invest in some night lights so you can light the path to the bathroom as you move it closer to the bathroom at night. You can almost completely prevent pooping in the pants. Express to him on a daily basis how disgusting poop is and how when we go poop we have to put it in the potty because poop is nasty. Say things like "Ewwwe poo poo" and "Stinky". Set books near his potty and let him set on his potty to read, whether it be in the bathroom or another room in the house. Don't confine the potty to the bathroom all the time, but when you're doing the poop part, it's best to have that in the bathroom. You want to make the bathroom pooping as fun and interesting as you can. Kids would much rather be doing something fun than sitting on a boring toliet in the bathroom trying to poop. My son has been fully potty trained since he was two. Hope this helps!

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  • 1 decade ago

    I have a girl and the naked around the house and M &Ms did the trick for her. However, my friend has a little boy who just got potty trained (after 3 also) and the M&M Fire in the potty trick worked for her. He got an M&M ever time he sat on the potty and 2 M&Ms everytime he did anything. They crumpled toilet paper into the toilet and she told him to put the fire out. Just a little different than the cherios in the potty.

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  • 1 decade ago

    My daughter was the same way. Every time I tried to train her, it would be a battle and very emotional. The last thing you want to do is let it get emotional. I just said, "That's OK. You will go potty in the toilet someday, when you are ready." When she was just over 3 and a half, she woke up one morning, said, "I have to go potty" I said (because I was still in bed) "go in your pull up" and she said,

    "no, I want to go potty" so, I put her on the potty. She had one accident that day and has had no accidents since then. Night time training and pooping came after the pee-training. Do not let anyone tell you there is anything wrong withthis approach. Kids who are forced to potty train can end up having body issues (like not feeling in control of their bodies), which can lead to behavioral andself esteem problems. Saying "all kids should be toilet trained by a certain age" is like saying "all kids should be walking by a certain age" This is up to your child, not you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I had the same problem, my solution was this. 1. (I am assuming you still use diapers) - Show him the diapers and throw them all away - so he can see you do it. explain to him that the diapers have gone bye-bye and will not be coming back (except for night time of course but he doesn't need to now that). Be sure to keep him in regular underware all day long - no breaks in the day - this is very important!! 2. buy a timer that can be set to 30 minutes. 3. every 30 minutes take him to the potty. 4. try to make games out of the potty time (i.e. putting sunflower seeds or cheerios in the toilet - have him try to sink them) I know it sounds a little gross but hey little ones like it - makes it even better if dad can go with him as much as possible and play the same game. 5. stay vigilant!! don't give up your routine - sometimes it might get a little messy - but I guarantee that in 2-5 days you little one will be practically done with diapers.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Hi, my son skipped the potty altogether. We got him one of those little steps and toilet trainer seats. Makes more sense as he would've got used to the potty then had to change his habits again when the toilet was introduced. We got him some nice kiddie handwash. He likes climbing up the step, flushing the toilet then washing his hands with his cool squirty soap. Make it fun for him. You could also try geting him some character briefs like spiderman. My son has noddy on his so hates to get them wet. When he uses the potty, make a huge fuss of him.

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  • 1 decade ago

    The preschool or day care assisted in teaching my son to be potty trained my favorite method is fruit loops or cherios... which ever the child DOESN'T eat... you could make it into a game.. toss them into the potty just a couple and to work on aiming and such have him hit the target... only do it when he has to go.. eventually he'll get use to just going potty and you can do away with the having to toss cerial for aim lol sounds funny but it's a fun way to get him not to miss and to want to go to the potty when he has to go.. as far as pooping well... let's hope he associates that with the potty too

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  • 4 years ago

    My son likes chocolate. i offered a bag of Chocolate chips ( he calls them monkey poop Lol what am i able to assert he's a three 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old boy that thinks gross issues are humorous) whilst he replaced into potty preparation i could supply up regardless of i replaced into doing and positioned him on the bathroom like countless 30 or 40 minutes and if he tinkled i could supply him a pair products of "monkey poop". He concept this replaced into the main suitable factor in the worldwide. i could in basic terms supply him like 2 at a time. thinking he did no longer tinkle each and every time he sat on the potty he extremely wasn't getting distinctive chocolate even nonetheless it replaced into adequate to make him choose for to attempt. Then after he have been given the carry of peeing we switched to in basic terms giving him the chocolate whilst he went poop in the potty. Chocolate worked for me even nonetheless it ought to be something diverse for you. Take regardless of this is that he likes and supply it a stupid or gross call and notice if it works for him. i'm so chuffed to be previous the potty preparation degree. before you be attentive to it he would be employing the potty like a huge boy!! good success!

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  • 1 decade ago

    "They say" that this is a "power struggle" you have gotten in to!

    Your child knows that YOU want him to go potty...HE can STILL control YOU by refusing to do so...and so YOU will have to clean them up!!!

    I know this is hard...but "attitude" makes all the difference! You need to let your child know that YOU are through "cleaning" him up...that HE is a big boy now...and that he KNOWS what to do... "matter of factly" (in other words..calmly!)..just to let him know that if he doesn't go potty...then he will have to clean himself up afterward...not you.

    Then FOLLOW through...WHEN he has a "accident" TELL him to go change himself...IF it is "the dirty"...then just place him in the tub and turn the water on warm for him and tell him to wash himself...it is important NOT to "react"...

    Also...try to use positive reinforcements..we used the mini M & M's...we would give them five for EACH success they had...and make a "big deal" out of it...maybe with a victory "dance" ..or make up a victory "song"...to do each time!!!

    Children love to please their parents..so this will make him WANT to please you...but you must not get into the power struggle with them, by "begging" or "shaming" or punishing"...and you must NOT be thier "servant" any more in this area!!!

    It takes a LOT of patience on YOUR part...so GOOD LUCK to you!

    One more suggestion...I had one grand daughter that was really hard to train..she was four..(it was HER doctor that told us that this was a "power struggle")

    We finally made a chart..and told her that EACH time she went to the potty ...we would let her put a star on the chart...and when she got TEN stars in a row......we would have a "potty party"

    This (finally!) worked for her, and we had a party complete with balloons, cake and ice cream and a present to open!!!

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  • 1 decade ago

    you should try makeing the epotty more fun by putting cheerios in the potty and tell him if he can hit the cheerios he will get a special thing, or even using a singing potty shair sometimes helps, the way i did it was let my son pee outside like all the big boys do, but i live in the country so nobody can see him you might not have that available

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