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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

38 but first love still stuck in my head?

I dated my first love in HS from ages 16-19. We had a very intense and passionate relationship. I'm 38 now, married with 2 kids. Here is the crazy thing........About four times per week, for years and years I have VIVID dream of her. When I have these dreams, I sometimes wake and think they were real for a few moments. Then I feel empty throughout the day as if a part of me is missing. I'm not crazy and am not obsessed with her. Sure I still think about here from time to time, but 20 damn years later? What the heck is this about? These dreams are so powerful, they seem like they rip part of my soul out. I had extremely intense feelings for her when we dated, but I have not even seen her for about 13 years now. Should I contact her? Is this some type of phyicic phenominon? Are there any psychics who could give me advice? Thanks in advance.


Again, this is out of my control. This is in my DREAMS. It just happens. The feelings seem to take over after the dreams.

Update 2:

The dreams are more then just sexual, although some are. They are very intense, filled with passion. They often encompass great heartbreak, or a renewed friendship. They hapeen all the time, but usually are different. This is not about me wanting to have an affair, or buy a sports care because I'm turning 40. these dreams are way more then that.

6 Answers

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I am not a psychic but you have a wife and 2 children to think of. This first love is over so if you can't put her out of your mind seek counseling. The real problem here in my opinion is that you are getting close to 40 and when a man gets this age then he gets it in his mind to go exploring and often ruins his marriage. Be careful. You can not help your dreams -try not to think about her in the day time. Get real passionate with your wife right before you go to sleep and the next morning if you have to and this should solve the problem. If it would have been meant for the relationship to have worked out with your first love then it would have! Don't worry to much about it-no one forgets their first love. Are the dreams about sex?

  • 1 decade ago

    Nah,u r not sick.I too hate it.i have the same problem.However,my case is ten times minor than yours.only 2 years,i hope it wont be s long s yours.i would much more prefer nightmares rather than these just becomes bubbles that pop when we wake up.and we become blurry the whole day..after 20 years..why dont you go and look for her.if she has already becomes a fat lady,you may have better nights.tell your wife so that you wont feel guilty towards your wife.i belive that she will understand you.she can also help you a little.consult a doctor is useless.After 13 years,i belive that she will be friends with you.You must contact her,ask her out and chat,being friends with her will wipe out your sweet memories bit by bit.Anyway,make sure u love your wife deep all the same.k?Your family is the REAL part of your life.If things change,update us,i'l take a lookout for your question.

  • Rocky
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Some times I feel the same way. I don't know what to tell you. Maybe you should contact her if you think that wouldn't freak her out unless she's married then that would be in bad taste.

  • 1 decade ago

    Might be a good idea to contact her! After the 150 pounds she has gained, your erotic dreams will fade!

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  • you're living in the past.. youre always gonna wonder what could have been. stop devouting time on thinking of this past love and worry about your family. dont contact her.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    this might be helpful

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