Ok this is what really is going on...I did something I shouldn't do.?

My crush has been giving me mixed signals. We were just friends and hang out together. I think my liking him so much is making me insecure about who I am and I question myself how I am not able to think clearly. At the same time we just got into a fight because he said that my gift cost too much and told me to return it. He read the card and I wrote how I feel in there and now I feeling guilty having written that because I think he DOES think I'm a freak and he just said this on the phone so I wrote like millions of questions tryin to understand how a friend can say I love you and then say this? He calls and says I said love you as a friend! But I misinterpreted that and in the card, I aggred and I said I think we should be more than friends. He just said this like 5 minutes ago. I know I sound crazy but I'm just hurt right now. This is embarrassing so please be honest.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Sounds to me like this guy likes to play games and lead people on and then make them feel stupid and careless. That makes him look much better and makes him feel superior to everyone.

    My suggestion, drop him like a hot potato and go out and get involved with your friends.

    If this guy is a friend, he's a dangerous one. He doesn't care how things are said, only if they can benefit him in some way.

    Let go, make new friends and enjoy...this guy is for the dogs....

  • 1 decade ago

    Well, the one simple fact in life is this, Love hurts.

    This guy sounds like he only wants to be friends. He should have been nicer to you about it, but take it from another guy, we can be jerks at times. My advice to you would be to tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. If he does not feel the same way then just move on. The right guy is out there for you and you do not need to waste your time if this guy isn't him. This guy will either realize what he lost when you move on or he won't care. Either way, you will be better of knowing than not knowing.

    Sorry that Christmas Day has brought you so much pain, but you will get through it. Hold your head up high and do not ever let a man define who you are. Best of luck in the new year =)

  • 1 decade ago

    He's not really giving you mixed signals if he said he loved you as a friend. That's pretty clear cut. The more you try to push this guy into making it more than friends, the more he'll think you're crazy. I don't think you're confused as much as you want to make him want what you want and you can't do that. If you keep doing what you're doing, you're going to lose him as a friend as well. Ease up on questioning him about his feelings and overanalyzing everything and for God's sake, DON'T write him anymore love filled letters or cards. I could be wrong but, most guys don't want to read that crap unless they've been with the woman for quite a while. Just relax and stop overthinking things and you should be ok.

  • G A
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Gifts are nice, but sometimes, money is better spent on other things. I remember overhearing my mother and father have one of their very rare public discussions with each other over something very similar. To my mom, the time together meant so much more than the gift, and she had wanted to plan a vacation together for the two of them. To my dad, he wanted to show his genuine appreciation of her by giving her a specific gift which he knew she would like, but which was fairly pricey. Ulitimately, my dad wound up taking the gift back, they planned a vacation, and then had to cancel it because my dad fell very ill.

    As for for your relationship, it sounds to me like you and he need to work on your communication with each other. I don't wish either of you ill health, but aside from that, the situation sounds rather similar to what transpired between my parents.

    If he is looking to be "just friends" and you are looking for more than that, though, you have a decision to make: Are you willing to wait for him to "come around", as it were, or do you think your time and energy are better spent with other guys? I can't answer that for you.

    I wish you the best of luck.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well, I think you already know the answer. You want to be more than friends, he doesn't. Unfortunately, that happens.

    I feel for you. You're feeling embarrassed and like you want to crawl into a hole. But if you hadn't said anything, you would have always wondered. Now you can get on with your life.

    Don't worry about him. He probably already knew how you felt about him.

  • 1 decade ago

    he made it clear you guys are just friends and expensive gifts is crossing the line i wouldnt except a expensive gift from u in these circumstances either theirs other fish in the sea if you only want a relationship with this guy then stop going around him youll just end up hurting yourself more

  • Smriti
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Return his gift and ask him to return your card and stop communicating with him. Either he is stupid or is being manipulative. Any ways, you wouldn't like to be taken for granted.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    get rid of this loser.

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