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Why can't guys give a chance to shy girls?

When people ask me if I ever had a bf I tell them no. There like in shock because they always telling me how pretty I am and how boys would be over me. The truth is they don't hardly.

Im kind of shy but I always try to smile when I can, Im not afraid to smile. If someone starts talking to me or if I do it's easy.

Im just not one of those girls that the first time they meet you they have this bubbly personality. For me it takes a couple of days and I noticed guys don't give me a chance to. The ones that do sometimes I find out that they have gf's so it's a no no.

So why do they just give up so easily?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Well, where should I start...

    Being pretty is intimidating and your shyness is probably mistaken for disinterest. Loud girls are much easier to talk to because a guy already has an idea of what they are like and how they are going to respond to whatever he says, they are also very "what you see is what you get" and there isn't much depth to them. Pretty girls who are quiet, on the other hand, are usually pretty smart and the perception that I get is that it's going to be much harder to try and get her to like me or stay interested in me, and if I go and talk to her and she just smiles and doesn't really say anything, that just serves to confirm my perception.

    So my advice for you would be to try and show more interest and encourage guys to pursue you, let them know they have a chance. Compliment, try being funny, tease the guys you are around, but do it in a good natured way. Good Luck.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I'm the same way. I'm shy, too, and it seems like everyone gravitates toward the loud girl. Shy girls sometimes are hard to read since we don't directly put ourselves out there, so guys don't know what we're thinking, ie what we think of them. Because the outgoing girls put themselves out there, guys aren't afraid to do the same to them. Honestly, and if you ask any guys here, shy girls are more appealing. So it also could be that they're shy. You're a mysterious, out-of-reach girl to them, and they don't know how to talk to you (and you must be really pretty). Just keep being your sweet self. Smile a lot, because it's the silent welcome and beckon. If they still won't give you a chance, it's they're problem. They're missing out on a great girl. You don't want to be with anyone who won't give you a chance just because you're shy.

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  • 1 decade ago

    A lot of guys are used to that bubbly personality so they may take you not being outgoing as giving them the cold shoulder or maybe showing a lack of interest.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Trust me gurl! i have the same problem! people r always telling me that i am soo pretty and they 2 r in shock that i have never had a bf! can we finish this coversation not by yahoo! answers? E-mail me at ornelas_karla@yahoo.com

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  • 1 decade ago

    gotta meet them half way, if a guy feels he is doing all of the conversating and you dont show him you are interested, he will get bored quick. you gotta show him that you want to be with him and constantly tell him that you like being with him. dont leave him hanging, or you will be a very lonely girl!!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Because they have high standards that they can not even meet, and they are very materialistic. I hate it too I wish that they would go beyond their shells and branch out

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    They are just intimidated. They might have to speak. They would rather just tune out the prattle and nod their head and smile. Stick to your guns, sister....

    You don't want those dudes anyway.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Alot of guys are shy too and afraid it will turn out badly for them.

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  • 1 decade ago

    They might be interpreting your behavior that you don't like them, and therefore aren't taking it further by asking you out.

    Most boys or men are very easy and it doesn't really doesn't take much effort to get one.

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  • 1 decade ago

    hey....how old are you......mayb the guys at ur age are jus looking for sth else and not realise ur worth...be patient and the right man will soon find you

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