Do I need SuperNanny??
I am going crazy my 5yr. girl I adopted screams and kicks.My 6yr.boy fights and does a lot of things bad and my other 4 children 4 months 3months 5months and 1day old are okay.I really need Supernanny!!! I try doning TimeOut and No goning outside but that dosen't seen to help.They don't listen to Husband ethir!SUPERNANNY HELP!!
I need Birth Control!
I do spanking.Don't help.
NOTHING HELPS WE YELL AND STUFF!I DON'T HELP!!
I WISH I GOT GOOD ANSWERS!FROM NICE PPL!!
- The ScorpionLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
Stop yelling. You have to create a controlled environment, that's actually what the trolls want, they just don't know how to attain it. But it all starts with making a typical day at the house a predictable and controlled environment. Don't just let the day happen, plan the day and force it. Be positive about the smallest things. Yelling is purely negative and just raises the level of non-structure in the house.
Spanking does work, but not when they don't understand why, that's why you need the controlled environment rather than the chaos, so that they can see that control and calm is good, chaos is bad, and when they create chaos terrible things happen to their backsides.
- 1 decade ago
you poor thing u sound really depressed. i suggest u talk to someone bout that, before i gets to bad.
first of all good on u for adopting. your obviosly a kind person unlike that w a n k e r that sends u horrible messages.
no super nanny for u, tho disepline is good, but remember all ways stick to what u say if u say they go to their room for 15 mins they stay there 4 that long, or unless they say sorry.
also if it still happens make the punishment worst each time if u keep doing the same things they begin to kno what's coming next obviously. and don't forget to take away there toys and return when they do something good. don't only focus on the negative rewarding is the most important part. they are human but still they are young and sometimes have trouble understanding. also maybe they have ADD or ADHD, don't mean to offend but may u should take them to the doc just in case it can be treated and take a big load off your shoulders. i've got two kids of my own. good luck all the best for the new year. let me kno how it all goes.
- VelkenLv 71 decade ago
Sounds like you weren't thinking when you took on so many children. Each child needs time to adjust. And unless you are fostering, who would let you have 4 kids of different ages but all under 6 months? Are any of those children biologically yours? You needed to have had time to bond with each child, especially an older adopted child. You got yourself into this mess. I feel sorry for the kids. They are the ones that will suffer.
And why do you need birth control? The way I read it, only two of those kids could have come out of your body, the 6 yr old and ONE of the babies.
- AnnamarieLv 51 decade ago
Okay, honey. Supernanny sucks. The only thing she's got is "naughty corners/time outs". You said so yourself that they don't work. If you spank your child, Supernanny will just tell you that you don't love your own child.
You need to step up and be a parent. Or close your legs. I'm so sick of people who can't handle their own kids. They want to put it off on a tv show person, or the police. If you can't control your own kids, you need to give them to someone who can. Then, close your legs and stop having them. It's so pathetic how there are so many parents like you out there in the world. There IS ways to get through to every child. You're just too lazy to figure it out yourself, and you want Supernanny to do it for you. She really has only one technique. And time outs do NOT work with every child in the world.
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- syllylou77Lv 51 decade ago
Judging by the ages I assume all are adopted or at minimum most. Alot of times older kids come with baggage like abusive parents or foster parents, etc. Kids need discipline & each child's different. Sometimes you have to be authorative & always consistent. My son once tried a screaming, kicking fit. I walked away, ignoring him. It freaked him out so bad he came running, holding my legs apologizing. I told him I forgave him but if he ever did that again I'd walk away & wouldn't be so quick to forgive the next time. I never had that problem again. My daughter came home once mad because she couldn't have dessert before dinner & decided to call me a MF. W/o thinking I back handed her mouth. Not bad enough to do damage, just sting. She ran to her room in shock screaming & crying she was calling welfare (at 5 yrs. old). I ignored her until dinner was ready, then called her for dinner. She sat down & after a few mins. of me ignoring the tears she apologized. We talked about why what she did was wrong & I apoligized for having to be so harsh & we hugged. In both cases it was never again an issue. It's all well & good to be friends with your kids & understand their frustrations, anger, etc. But first you have to be a parent. They have to know there is someone stronger, smarter, etc. than they are so they can feel safe. There is no security for a child in believing they can manipulate or control their parents by their words or actions. They need limits & they need to be consistent otherwise they will continually test them.
- LadyCatherineLv 71 decade ago
I do not think you need super nanny but you might need counsling.
The whole family.
The first thing you need to STOP doing is yelling. Most kids get past the point of yelling helping. All they hear is the yelling and not the reason behind it.
Counsling will help you find out why the kids are acting the way they are and help in steps to make home life better.
- wcbaseball4Lv 41 decade ago
No they need discipline. And not the bullsh*t sit in the corner or no TV...they need to get their *ss whipped good and hard. B/c kids associate things with fear, if they are scared they'll get a whipping they will not do such things. Think about it. A kid touches a hot stove, they dont do it again b/c they associate it with fear of getting hurt again. Im sick of ppl saying its wrong to do that to ur kids, it may suck for you as a parent to have to do it but in the end it is well worth it. The "supernanny" is an idiot and she has NO clue what she is talking about. Go back to spanking ur kids...it works.
- LCeeLv 51 decade ago
Why would you choose to have adopted so many children so close together ?
Children that are older must come with baggage & you need to get them some help for their own sake.
- 1 decade ago
You and your husband need to get a book called love and logic read it. Also how old were your adopted children when you got them and how long have you had them.
- 1 decade ago
You have to be very cosistant with the two older ones when they are in time out or they are gonna be trouble!!! When they are there they are stuck there make them appologize for what they did wrong and be FIRM about time out!! WOW I am amazed by you tho you have both hands full not just a handfull GOOD LUCK!!!