Ladies....Please help....I need your opinion on this situation.?

My ex broke up with me a month ago. She broke up with me becuz I didnt make her feel special and didnt give her the attention she deserved. I was more into her hanging out with me and my buddies. We went out for a year. I moved here to be closer to her but I didnt do the same things with her when I had a long distance relattionship with her. In her new lifestyle she has, she realized how much I neglected her and she doesnt want to open her heart to me because she says it takes a lot of work that she doesnt really want to do. I told her if u love me you would give me a 2nd chance and if u can tell me u dont love me than i will never bother u again. I didnt demand much, just want her to call me more often and spend some time with me to make me feel special. I said if it didnt work out that I would realized we were just not meant to be but if we didnt try, i couldnt just be friends right now. She said she will try to not hold her grudge against me and she would call me more often

Update:

She had made plans to spend Christmas with me. I am taking things slow. That day I confronted her with my feelings, when I left we kissed each other passionately and said "I Love u". I dont know but what are the chances she will give me another chance. She didnt say she was giving me another oppurtunity yet but that she would do those things she said she would do. What are my chances that she will give me that oppurtunity?

8 Answers

Relevance
  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    A relationship is a two way process, it should be give and take... we just can't demand something from that significant someone all the time..sometimes we also have to give in to what they want for it to work...

    you said that "i didnt demand much, just want her to call me more often and spend some time with me to make me feel special" ,that may not mean much to you...but for the person you are telling those words that would be great...making a person feel that he is special is a very diificult task specially you are expecting it on the first place...i think it would be better if you don't wait for things to happen..you have to make it happen...there are a lot of ways wherein you can be able to satisfy her demands and your demands as well...

    there are also times that we would just tell you we are tired of the situation, and we don't wanna do this and that...but actually we don't always mean what we say regrading those things...there are times that we tell you we are tired and we don't wanna do this and that but actually we are speculating for better ways or strategies to fulfill your demands,as well as ours..

  • 1 decade ago

    Your plea for help is way too long, so didnt read it! Thanks for the 2 points sweetie, oh and do what the other chicks are saying, move on in life, you can only find something better! Go to the gym, come back looking 20 times hotter and sexier and you will be able to get a prettier girl:)

  • 1 decade ago

    The only thing you can do now is leave her alone to think things over. I don't know what the her new lifestyle is, but,"calling more often", and "making you feel special", ARE big things. You should know that...you didn't do them. Re-read your post, and good luck..you'll need it.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    only time will tell....take it slow...show her how you feel don't just tell her.....you know what she needs and wants and that's what you need to give her....be sincere, attentive, loving, make her feel special....now is the time and hopefully she will respond and things will get back on track for the two of you...good luck and happy holidays

  • How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer.
  • 1 decade ago

    hey im in touch with my feminine side

    she obviously feels unloved

    call her up. envite her out to something. suprise her

  • 1 decade ago

    Move on.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I hope she keeps her word.

  • 1 decade ago

    MOVE ON

Still have questions? Get your answers by asking now.