why are str8 men so insercure about their penis size?
hey, i didn't mean to offend anyone in asking this question, i dont mean to be so generalised, but the biggER the question, the less people will bother to read it, so we dont live in a compleetly bigger-is-better society.
my conclusion is that some ppl are lazy n they want it closr to hand
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Because str8 men, think with their penis, their brains are as small as their *****.
- Marc MiamiLv 41 decade ago
The question is not accurate. In fact, most hetero & gay guys are quite pleased with their own equipment. But almost all men have moments of self-doubt, since it's only human. Penis enlargement quacks exploit this vulnerability by planting the idea in men's heads that they are not 'big enough.'
But it doesn't stop there: Porn makers photograph men with larger penises, since larger organs look better on camera. This gives the false impression that all men have large penises, which can be intimidating to the average guy who is having a momentary lapse of physical self-esteem.
If a man becomes obsessed with this sense of inadequacy, it can lead to damage to his personality and even bizarre methods to 'enlarge' his penis, inculding painful and usually unsuccessful surgery.
That's why psychologists acknowledge that men will continue to go ahead and compare themselves, since they seem hell-bent to do this. But these therapists warn the men against becoming obsessed with something a person just can't change, which is their body part's size. (an extremely small minority of men do suffer from a clinically miniscule penis condition and should not hesitate to discuss this with their doctors).
But even some men with small penises manage to have constant wild sex with many partners, and some impregnate whole villages of women, so penis size only seems to be a problem for the men who obsess about it.
Gay men who obsess about big penises are generally called 'size queens.' Men from every country and class seem equally inclined to doubt themselves, so the penis enlargement quacks will only get richer. I just wish their endless spam would quit filling my email box!
- taowhoreLv 41 decade ago
Perhaps they're obsessed about the size of their penis is a twisted fear-based expression of their subconscious gay-side . . .
That somehow their feelings of not being 'man enough' get projected between their legs. As it would be better to have what is lacking be something on the outside rather than (heaven forbid) something on the inside!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
It's not just straight men. It's everywhere. Heck, it's even in lesbian culture (except now the penises are dildos and strap-ons)!
Somewhere along the line, people got this crazy idea that a larger penis meant virility, strength, and sexual prowess. It might have come from a lot of places. I know there's a myth that believes men with large penises will be more able to impregnate women (can deposit sperm deeper inside). Not to mention that we live in the age of the Supersize! Bigger is better, we keep saying, for everything, and why not penises, too?
In most cases, penis size has nothing to do with one's ability as a lover. The only case is with those who have very stretched orifices, such as women who have had multiple childbirths and hence loosened their vaginal canals, or gay men who engage in practices with very large things penetrating them (like fisting). Beyond that, there is little difference. Even smaller-than-average penises can stimulate a man's prostate during anal sex, and very few women actually have vaginally-based orgasms anyways (they are usually clitoral). Not to mention that even with vaginal orgasms, the pumping action is generally what makes it occur, not being "filled" by a very large penis. So much more goes into sexual pleasure than how big the stick you're swinging is: foreplay, attention, love, caring, originality and inventiveness, use of hands and mouth, etc.. A big dick does not a great lover make, gay or straight, and in some cases, they can be downright scary!
And yet the myths persist, both in gay culture and straight. A lot of women want larger men in the genital department, but most, in my experience, don't mind if the reality doesn't live up to their fantasies. In fact, the men who seem so worried about the size probably infect their women to wonder what's so great about bigger, which starts a viscious cycle of everyone wanting to upgrade to 'grande'. Seriously- there are so many men going out and paying lots of money for expensive surgeries that cut a tendon so that the penis will hang a mere inch lower. It's ridicuous.
Having said all of that, I can (somewhat) understand this impulse. Like I said, we live in a bigger=better society. In fact, the -er or 'more' anything is, the more it appeals. Harder, faster, longer, kinkier, sweeter, bigger. Sex just keeps escalating, and it turns us on. When you go to imagine or fantasize about sex, does it feature an average or smaller-than-average penis? Or does it tend (even just a little), to the bigger side? I'll write a sentence, and you tell me how most people would fill in the blank: "She/he grabbed his ___, hard, throbbing ****." For most, it's not going to be 'small' that goes there, or 'normally-sized', or anything like that. We're going to say 'big', because it sounds better, because it turns us on more, etc.. Frankly, what I imagine in my dreams and watch in my porn is often nothing I want to see or experience in real life, but the bigger the ****, the bigger the penis, the hotter it is, even though in real life, adequate ones will more than satisfy and make me happy.
This is something that plagues us all. But you're right, many straight men do obsess about size. In my opinion, it's a mixture of the myths I described above (like a bigger penis can create more potent sex), and possibly the vanity factor and competitive nature of manliness. Penis size is placed as a category for appraisal in the overall package of how you measure up- the concept that a penis makes a man. To accept anything less than the something toweringly impressive down below is to not be as masculine the way many want to be. Those are some of my theories, at least.
Still, let's stop the insanity, people! All of us, straight men, gay men, women, everyone! Love the ***** in your life, no matter what size, shape, or color they may come!
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- 1 decade ago
Gay men are the worst size queens ever. It's not a straight/gay difference. Men are men... Gay or straight, they both have the same way of thinking. Once gays and straights realize that they are not so different they will get along much better.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Gay men also obsessed with their penis size.
The bigger you have the better you will be accepted. Which to me it's so painful to have such a big penis guy in my as*hole..... hurting so bad. But strangely so many gay men really love super big dick. Weird while I just love the average one.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Perhaps you would've gotten a better response had you asked, "Why are MEN so insecure about their penis size?" Being straight or gay has nothing do with it.
- sincity usaLv 71 decade ago
I'm straight and i am not insecure with my size. Me and my 7 inches are just fine.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
We are? That's funny, I've enjoyed the hell out of mine for the last 35 years. Hell,I can barely keep my hands off it.
Here's a question-what makes you get to make such a gross generalization and get away with it, and if a straight person did the same to you, you would be in tears suing the person in court?
- orange_crush_05Lv 61 decade ago
because gay men are happy with the size they are