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Am I being too hard on my 16 year old daughter? She wants to go "out" for New Years Eve.?

My husband and I do not feel comfortable letting her out past 11:00pm to begin with and also with all the drunk driving that goes on, we feel she would be safer at home with the family.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I think you're right personally.

    Maybe she could join in the festivities with you guys? Invite some of her friends over and have a good time with the family.

    Maybe she wont feel like she missed out so much if she has some of her mates over.

    She probably will kick up a stink saying horrible things like I hate you and I dont want you there your embarrassing etc. But then its better than nothing.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It depends on what kind of child she is and where she wants to go. If she is a good kid and has never given you any reason to worry and only wants to go to a friends for the count down then it might be ok. If she gets into alot of trouble and wants to go to a big party,then probably not. There aren't going to be many more drunk drivers out at 1am than 11pm anyway. She would be safer at home, but you also have to let her have her life experiences too. It could also be dangerous having her resent you for something like this too.

    Source(s): Being a father
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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Okay. I'm 15. You think im going to say like, let her go.

    Well, im stating both sides.

    If you make her come home at 11pm on New Years Eve, that's rather STUPID, because then there was no point to her being out with her friends to BRING in the NEW YEAR.

    Well, if you don't wanther to go, explain WHY to her.

    I know, that i don't like being told, just no. I like a reason. And my parents understand that.

    Well, as everyone else has said, why don't you drive her to the party yourself, and pick her up, AFTER midnite, so she can bring in the New Year with her friends. Or let her have a small party with some of her friends?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    HMMMMMMM I always try to be the cool and up beat parent BUT Im with you on this one! i guess it also depends on where u live- how big the city- curfew laws- and how well u trust your daughter too. We live in a little town In Nebraska with like 800 people and I let my 16 year old son go to the town hall to ring in the new Year but thats cuz i can see him from the house and he always calls me as he is leaving so i can either pick him up or watch for him! if she is wanting to go to some all out party-I think Id keep her home too! Let her know its not cuz u dont trust her or love her- let her know about all the drunk drivers and so on. Have her invite a few friends over and let her have a little party of her own like in the family room or finished basement or just her room! Chips. brownies-pizza- and grape juice that looks like Champagne! Good luck to u! Im sure she will understand that it is out of love that u and your hubby want to keep her safe!

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  • WINGS
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    1 decade ago

    I think you are doing the right thing. I am nto saying that your daughter would do this however, a good friend's daughter got pregnant around the new year I am not sure allt he details because he dosn't liek to talk about it but he is now a grandpa at 32. He was young when he had her and despite telling her don't do what I did trust me I know, she still did it. My point is that its good to knwo where your kids are and to keep them in if you can. I wouldn't let my daughter nessacariyl go out on New years unless I knew where she was and knew the people she was gonna be with i.e. parents etc.

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  • 1 decade ago

    New Year's Eve should be a family holiday where families spend time together before another year comes along that will bring joys and tribulations. If a family starts a year together they will probably end the year together.

    And more practically, the craziness "out there" on New Year's Eve is absolutely scary. You clearly care about your daugter's well-being. She will compain, cry, and tell you that you are "smothering" or "sheltering" her. What she means is that you're "taking care" of her because you love her. So good for you mom!

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  • 1 decade ago

    God, no. If anything you're protecting your daughter. It's a dangerous out to begin with to let any teenager out. What with drunk drivers out. No hon, I think your doing the right thing. If she wants to have fun...then by all means tell her to invite a few friends of her over the house. It's better to know that your child is safe at home with friends and family then having to worry about them on such like I said dangerous night.

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  • 1 decade ago

    There is no way I would let my child out on New Years Eve at the age of 16! NO WAY! The only way I would let her go anywhere is if she was at her friends house and the parents had better be home.

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  • TCSO
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    1 decade ago

    Making a kid come home an hour before midnight on New Year's Eve is the same as not letting them out at all. Warn her about drunks and to watch cross traffic even when she's got the green light. (That goes for everyone...trust me!) Get her to call you at certain points in exchange for granting a little trust. If done right, she'll respect you and be willing to give and take as time goes on and similar debates arise.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I understand about you wanting her home by 11:00, but I can also understand her wanting to go out with her friends but 11 seems like a reasonable time to be home, besides what is their for a 16yr old to do after 11 besides possibly get into trouble.

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