What's your opinion on living together before marriage?

I am a Christian...& I don't think it's right. Just curious as to what your take on it was & why. Also, what does your religion say about it & how do you comply?

31 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
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    ...God's design is one man and one woman, for life.

    ...If you wish to start out on the wrong track in your marriage, live with your paramour (lover) before marriage. Counselors report that many problems in marriage stem from violating God's laws on purity.

    ...In Hebrews 13:4 we read, "Let marriage be held in high honor among all, and the bed undefiled, for fornicators and adulterers God will judge." I don't know all the implications of that, but I wouldn't want God to punish me for violating this warning. And someone who truly loves the Lord will want to be obedient to the Scriptures and will choose to wait until the proper time - after you are married.

    ...Suppose, too, you get pregnant, or get an STD and the guy runs off; make him work for you. He will respect you more remain pure until marriage.

    ...You may also find, as many girls do, that their boyfriends are less likely to commit to them in marriage, and many figure why should they - if they can get string you along and get sex outside of marriage.

    ...One more piece of advice, and I believe it is sage advice: ask God for and only marry someone who is a growing Christian, and some who loves God more than he loves you.

    ...BTW, I am an evangelical (born-again) believer in Jesus Christ.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    No go. Surveys show that living together before being married has not helped reduce divorce rates. In fact, it has increased with those that have done so. In some cases it might be an excuse to, (shall I say "get what you want") without making any commitment. If one partner is abusive to the other, the abused has little legal ground to stand on. There would be no such thing as a divorce so something like child support, alimony, taking off with jointly purchased items and joint checking accounts would all suffer. There would be little way to retrieve things and it would be harder to get $$. People living together and remain unmarried could "go out" on the other and not have to worry about breaking any vows or promises or worry about the repercussions of divorce. This would make it very easy to cheat on the other. Who wants that?? Last but not least, what does God think of it? What do your parents think of it?

  • Sara
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    Well we got an apartment, as they were hard to rent in a really nice area...and he moved in and lived there 5 months before our wedding. No big deal. I was there on the weekends and we both did painting and made changes. I hardly think since you're going to be married soon (presumably engaged with a ring on your finger, yes?) -that this is a big deal under these circumstances. Grace

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I don't think its right till marriage.Just imagine what if it doesn't work out and you bump into that person after few years how will you feel,disgusted I guess.We must respect our religion after all it does teach us descipline. Getting married sounds much noble and modest.I belong to the religion Islam and Alhumdulilah its a complete code of life and it is considered Haram (sin) to live together before marriage.If people really love each other then why don't they get married,if you ask unmarried couples that why don't they get married so their answer is whats the need when we are getting everything without marriage.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Living together- no opinion really. Sex before marriage I don't think is a wise decision. Ofcourse you have to keep in mind that the Bible sets different criteria for the term "marriage" than the government does. In government term marriage simply means you could afford to pay the processing fees to the greedy politicians. The politicians aren't mentioned in the Bible's version.

  • 1 decade ago

    It is haram (prohibited) in Islam, as it is in all religions. The relation between man and woman is sacred in Islam and has to be put within the noble frame of marriage. Even engaged couple do not have the right to be together as married people.

    This is for the sake of clear relation of children to their parents, health consideration, etc. How did AIDS spread in the world?

    Sometimes things become too common that they are the rule and we think they are right and anything otherwise is wrong. However, living together without being married has no name but 'adultry'. This is a major sin in Islam I pray to Allah I never fall into.


  • Eds
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I am also a Christian and since it is a SIN, it is wrong. We have no idea how long we will live and when GOD will end life here at all. We need to be ready at all times. The sanctity of marriage has nothing to do with "getting along". My wife and I have been married for 31 years and we still have a spat now and then but SHE is my wife and we were married in the eyes of GOD. To divorce would be to break a bond that GOD has formed. Neither of us would ever do that. When we are judged, I hope that we are both able to be together in HEAVEN with CHRIST. Won't it be wonderful to meet Jesus, all of the APOSTLES, Moses, Noah, Abraham, and every other MAN of GOD that has ever lived?? Have a great Christmas.


  • Witchy
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I am a neo-pagan and my religion doesn't dictate things like this. I see nothing wrong with it and haven't had any ill-effects with it. My husband and I lived together before we were legally handfasted.

    I live and let live. If someone's religion prevents them from living together before marriage, then I respect their choice. And hope for respect for my choices in return.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I guess you can just go ahead use "faith" and stand in front of God and the church and your friends and family and state with absolute truth that you can predict your own future. Say out loud "Until Death Do Us Part".

    Or....you could use common sense and live with the person first and get to know them at a very very personal level.....before you decide if this person is your life partner.

    It's up to you of course....just my opinion.


  • 1 decade ago

    My opinion: It's only the business of the folks living together. Not yours, not your god's, and certainly not any church's. Better to wipe your own nose before telling someone else to keep theirs clean.

    And just for the record: I've done both. Living together is a LOT less hassle when it ends.

  • 1 decade ago

    A MUST!

    Regardless of religion, you don't know if you can live with someone forever if you have not lived with them a week, month or a year! Why do you think we have such a high divorce rate.

    I guarantee that that rate would go down if people agreed to live together for at least a year before getting married.


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