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I want to be faithful to my wife...but I dont enjoy sex with her..even though I enjoy it with Girlfriend?
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Choose only one if you want to be faithful.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Relationships should never be based on sex, if so they are always doomed to fail. Stop thinking with your brain down below and use the one up above. Think back to what made you fall in love with your wife and if you say sex than there is just no hope for you. Relationships usually are built by trust and love, those other things are just add-ons. Having a girl on the side, just cause the sex has lost it's umph with your spouse doesn't make what you are doing right. Before that other girl even came into the picture I would have thought of ways to make the sex better with my spouse, if you can't than my friend you have no imagination. Now I would ditch the girlfriend and try to make things work right with your wife and remember sex is NOT important.
- greenhornLv 71 decade ago
First stop having any girl friend.
Go through your mind what is the thing you had enjoyed when having sex with your g/f which you didnt have with your wife. Talk this over with your wife and tell her that you would like it from her. Also ask her if she wants something from you when she has sex with you. Mutual consultation on all matters - not only relating to sex - between husband and wife is the cornerstone of a successful marriage.
If you wish to be faithful to your wife, do not look at any other woman except in the specific role that they may play in your life, such as office colleague, friend, relative, etc.
Also remember: your wife is not there only for sex but she would be your life-long companion to share joys and sorrows.
- Bryan MLv 51 decade ago
Your not being faithful at all, because if you want to be faithful to your wife, end the affair with this girlfriend. Marriage is hard work, and if sex has become boring between you and your wife, then maybe you and her need to do some things to spice things up.
But first, end the affair, and confess to your wife what you did. Then if she don't decide to end it, because she will see you destroyed her trust. I suggest that you and your wife go to marriage counceling.
This coming from a man who's had an affair, and thankfully my wife forgave me for it. We have gone through marriage counceling and it helped us alot, and helped to rebuild trust.
By cheating on your wife, your NOT being faithful.
I hope that your wife is a forgiving woman, because if she is it will take a long time for her to trust you again.
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- Gee-GeeLv 51 decade ago
Maybe the problem isn't your wife but you. I think people tend to enjoy the mysterious or the taboo situations. Take some of those things in the relationship w ith your wife, leave the girlfriend alone, because someones going to get hurt, and put some of that sexual energy into your relationship with your wife.
- 1 decade ago
Do the right thing for a change, maybe if you would have shared your feelings, or the issues you were having with not getting enjoyment when having sex with your wife, you wouldn't be having this problem....did you ever tell her you didn't enjoy sex with her, or did you just act like you did enjoy it, and she has no idea that anything is wrong??? Sounds to me like she deserves better....who wants an unfaithful husband??
- 1 decade ago
Always remember sex is not motive of life. If are not enjoying sex with your wife does it mean you are not happy with your wife? If so just break up the relationship with her & get married with your girlfriend. If you are happy with your wife just tackle down the situation with cool head. Try to tell your wife that there is omething wrong in your sex life.Try different tactics with the help of books of sexology, movies with different positions of having sex.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
You should not be with your wife. I hope she finds out and takes the high road away from you. As for the girlfriend...she obveously has no self esteem or self respect while sleeping with a married man.
- ms ambitiousLv 41 decade ago
Well, you're not faithful if you have a girlfriend. Communication is key, so speak up and tell her about how you feel. Don't be so blunt, but suggest different new and exciting and spontaneous things! Be creative!
- 1 decade ago
WOW!! you really want to be FAITHFUL to your wife? What about your girlfriend? what kind of dumb butt are you?
i mean whats the point of this Question? i feel so sorry for your wife, to have a two timing, sleaze bucket, no good, rotten, jerk off like yourself! do HER your wife, a favor, and divorce her!!
- kazzadanniLv 41 decade ago
You obviously wouldn't know the meaning of the word faithful. I hope your wife finds out and throws you out with the rubbish, that's where you belong. Guys like you make me sick !!!!!!!