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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

how do i get my bf to talk about serious things?

7 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    STOP !!!!!!!! If you want a man to run for the hills without looking back.... then try to talk about serious emotional issues !!!! Women are wired different than men. It is unnatural for them to get all mushy. Only when he brings it up do you EVER discuss stuff, and even then do not overdo it. Hold back, and do not push the issues... Us women need to take heed from the men, and not be so SERIOUS all the time

  • ASH
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Try serious things that he's interested in... You will get a lot further that way, cuz hes probably not interested in a lot of the serious things you want to talk about....not offence, guys and girls are just into different stuff. Try to tune into what he feel strongly about and work with that. He may unfortunatly (if he's like my fiance-lol) think that talking about sportscenter is serious, compromise!

  • Niko
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    In some cases you can't. Some guys hate "sitting down" and having serious talks. If there's something specific you want to discuss or ask then bring it up when the time is right. Maybe when you're talking about a situation similar? Just throw it in there and see what comes out.

    If worse comes to worse at least just talk to him face to face and ask him what's up.

  • 1 decade ago

    You have to earn his trust first (not that he doesn't now). You can't really "get" anyone to talk about serious things unless he is ready to talk about it himself. Let him be. He will talk to you when he needs to. Just let him know that you are always there to listen and when he tells you what is on his mind, respect it. Be patient with him.

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  • 1 decade ago

    catch him when it's just the two of you lounging, no distractions, and you're both mellowed out. if he cracks jokes or doesnt take your seriously still, then look him in the eye, tell him you're serious and see what he has to say. he'll get it.

  • 1 decade ago

    you cant get anyone to talk they will only talk serious to you when they feel tat way and are close enough to you!~

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    You don't, many people are very closed with their emotion's. not a good thing necessarily however life. He will open up to you if he wants to you can not force him. God bless****

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