How do you feel about being/choosing a godparent?
i am writing a story for a national magazine about the changing role of godparents. stories and observations welcome.
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Hi. I was asked to be one about a year ago when my brother's first child was born. His wife expected me to be at every birthday, every Christmas, and events like the baby shower, and the Christening.
They live in the US and I live in Thailand, so I had to decline. My parents were pretty much okay with my choice, however, my sister-in-law was in a giant snit about how I don't put family first in my life. Over the last year, she has eventually persuaded the rest of my family that this is true.
In the end, a giant family rift ensued, and even though I am currently visiting the US for Christmas, I am visiting around with friends, and have not been invited to see my family :(
The giant moral of my story is that people should consider carefully who the ask, and the obligations they require. And, if you have to turn the offer down, do so very carefully.
Hoped this helped. Good luck!
- smeezlemeLv 51 decade ago
I should think that if a person is chosen as a Godparent it is for a good reason. Such knowing that person for a very long time and knowing they would give your child a happy healthy home with love, stability and understanding,always being there for your child and helping them through the good and bad times through their lives. It would be kinda like a stepparent only someone to look up to--being asked to accept the responsibility of being a Godparent should be a great honor.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Traditionally (or at least 30 yrs ago), I chose godparents for my children because in my religion, it was supposed to be someone who would help teach the child about the faith. A guardian in case of death of parents could be the godparent/s or someone different. In my case personally, they were never really involved other than socially.
- AlexLv 41 decade ago
I would feel honored that the parents felt I was trust worthy, but with the laws now days, Godparents don't hold the position that they once did. Even spirtual, if someone objects to you wanting to teach a child about God, they can force you to stop.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
I don't like being a godparent. Before choosing someone to be godparent, ask around if they want to be.
- 1 decade ago
I actually have 4 god children at this time.
My friend has 3 children, and I am the godmother to my nephew. I think that this is big responsibility. A lot of people think that this is the person that babysits, and buys gifts etc.
Being a godmother is a big responsibility. It means that my friend with the three children told me that if anything ever happens to her; I have to care for her kids. Meaning they are coming to live with me, and I am financially responsible.
This has been my best friend forever so I was delighted to be the godmother. However, at this time, I could not afford to care for 6 children if something were to happen. Not to mention if something happens to my sister child. I would be over my head.
I was asked by some of my other friends, and I had to decline. I did not want the obligation that comes with additional godchildren.
- AnnaGLv 41 decade ago
I can't wait to be a godparent....I don't have kids so I don't have to worry about choosing one. I do know who I would choose though,
- misty blueLv 61 decade ago
I love being a god mother, my god child is so beautiful and the day of her wedding she looked like she belong in a fairy tale book. choosing a god parent well i wish i chosed my other friend to be my sons godmother, but i chose another one and shes never there. so i would have to say you have to be very careful of choosing one that will be there for their god child. I admit i really don't see mine, but she knows im there for her whenever she needs me. shes like my own.