What should i do coz its ashaming?

Am 25 yrs now but i have never had a girl friend. i fear its getting late for me. i have the feelings for ladies yet i fear being turned down if i talk to one. and if i spot you as attractive to me, i get problems of talking to you. I need your advice pliz ladies en gents?

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  • Sax M
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
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    Go talk to them without any expectations. In fact, talk to as many women as you can. You'll find that they are very uninteresting and have nothing to say. Don't be too disappointed though.

    You don't have a girlfriend because you don't even have friends that are girls. It all starts with talking to them about food, the weather, the nice outfit they are wearing, the coffee, etc. etc. Don't just walk up to them and say "I love you will you marry me?" That's just plain psycho. Get with the small talk. Get to know their name first. Then see what happens.

  • 1 decade ago

    Keep being fearful of rejection and frightened to talk to women and write in again in 40 years when you are still single and unmarried. Can't you see how the past 10/12 years have slipped away from you. So, come on, grab the bull by the horns and get out there. Rejection is no worse than not trying. There are many, many young ladies out there who are equally lonely as yourself and would be only too happy to date you. So, instead of 40 years time, as I mentioned earlier, let us all have a message in the next six weeks that you have met a wonderful young lady who you are dating and it has changed your life.............Good luck and a Happy Christmas - start hunting..............

  • 1 decade ago

    Listen Dude' If you are going to live in this world you better get used to rejection. It's just a part of life that you have to deal with. For every 1 that rejects you 2 others wish you would talk to them. So don't be afraid' talk to them. If that one rejects you move on to the next. Always be willing to talk to them they are not going to bite you at least not right then. When they see that you are confidant enough who knows what might happen. But you have to try.

  • 1 decade ago

    The only way to get over your fear of rejection is to confront it in a bold way. Find a woman you are attracted to, then walk over and talk to her. If you get rejected, find another right away and try again. Don't get intimidated. There is a woman out there who is feeling the same way you are. Be her Knight in shining armour and rescue her . It is like jumping in the swimming pool when the water is really cold. It's uncomfortable at first, but once you are in, it gets easier. So, jump in!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It's never *too late* for a girlfriend. Stop being so shy and just walk up to a lady and start talking to her. Ask her where she went to college. Ask her if she have any pets. Ask her if she's married, or if she has children. Just start talking and asking questions and at the end of the conversation give her your phone number and tell her that if she'd like to go see a movie or go eat dinner then she can phone you.

    It's actually quite easy. You just have to stop being so shy, lol.

    Good Luck, Man.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Stop looking for a girlfriend and start looking for friends. The shy guys that I know with girlfriends met the girl as a friend first. If you look at girls as friends first you won't feel so pressured and will have an easier time being yourself.

  • 1 decade ago

    go onto a chat room and take the best offer even if it is s 1 night stand at least u will have had a chance

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you need to be A LOT more open and talk to girls! relax and be yourself. yes, the time is coming to look for a wife. this would be an excellent start!

  • when you like someone go for it and tell her ... dont worry if she turns you down all of us have passed from that experience one day ... and if she turns you down dont worry keep moving with your life ... remember there is always someone special for everyone ... and who knows maybe the gurl you ask out too has the hots for you so go for it

  • 1 decade ago

    try it, u might get lucky n take deep breaths b4 talkin to her, u have to overcome your fear, there r many fishes in the sea!!

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