I feel like im losing my mind...help???

i am currently 5 1/2 months pregnant with my ex bf's child. We never had a good relationship. I loved him very much and things just went bad. The last few months i have finally been getting my life together again. Hes now been randomly calling saying he wants a family of me him and our child. But then he says crazy sh.it like how hes going to take that child away from me and more controlling comments. If hes so horrible to me, why does he have such a hold on me??? why do i feel like i need him so much when deep down im scared of him and know im better off without him?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Well, I think you just need to tell him to cut that $hit out and that it's totally unnecessary. Maybe he's afraid you won't take him back or something. Some men get mean like that when they're insecure, while others are just psycho. I think it's worth investigation in this case because you're pregnant by the guy. But if it looks like he's still mean after you probe a bit, you should leave him for good. That's not the kind of person you should be with. I just wish you had realized it sooner! Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    The reason yuo feel connected to him is because of the child you are pregnant with now and you know what he is like and you've been doing good with ou thim so don't go back move forward and make a life fro your child and you. Yes it may be hard but it's better thatn haveing your child see you in a realtionship that's bad and hopefully someone will come into you and your childs life that will respect and love you both and help you show that child what true love is all about. Good luck to you on your pregnancy, on your new life and on finding you a good man.

    Source(s): My Personal life
  • 1 decade ago

    U pregnant with his child thats why u feel u want him and need him. But u say u scared of him, so dont fall into that ´trap´. U got yourself and your baby to think about! Im not saying that you must kick him out of your life, but if he is controlling you and you scared of him, then really you dont need that!

    Speak to you family and friends on how you are feeling. You might feel like you are alone, but you not!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It is just natural to have some feelings for the father of your child. Just don't fall into the trap of going against your better judgement.If you can it may be a good idea to put some distance between the two of you. He should not be making threats.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Run as fast and far away from the guy as you possibly can. The reason he has such a control over you now is because you might be scared of raising the baby alone. but run and run fast and far....

  • 1 decade ago

    No body has a hold Anybody. Yes it is his Kid that you are having. But he can not contral you. take him to court. and get money for the Baby and get a court Order for him to stay away. Make sure that you take notes of the phone calls he make to you. date time and what he said. and take it to court with you. or have some one on the phone line, when he call. the more proof you have that he is Controlling the more better it is in court for you.

  • 1 decade ago

    In this case, follow your mind, not your heart.

    You are not alone anymore, you have the responsibility of a child.

    Stay away from your ex, make a good home for you and your baby.

    Everything is going to be fine.

    Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If he's harming your pregnancy with problems...perhaps you should keep separated until a time when you feel safe and comfortable. Its not good to be scared of him if there's really a cause of your worry....so tell him your reasons and that you can make planned visits with him with family around and keep him informed of your progress etc. good luck

  • 1 decade ago

    He sound trouble. Follow your heart.

    You presently feel insecure ( because of the baby ) so you feel that you need him but you know it will not work. You will be taking a big risk with him.

    Good luck

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