How do married/involved men avoid cheating?

I am not suggesting cheating is ok, and I would never do it no matter what. That being said there have been times where it has been difficult, and not because of the physical/passion/lust that traps so many, I find that very easy to ignore, but sometimes I develop for lack of a better word a crush on someone, and while I just ignore and remind myself I am already in love it is difficult. Once again I would never act on these feelings and am not suggesting it is right to do so, I'm just wondering if there is an easier way to deal with these feelings, and also if other men have had the same problem.

Update:

my question is a bit misleading, I'm not actually asking how to avoid cheating, that has never truly crossed my mind, what I am asking is how to avoid having unwanted feelings for other women.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    You're human. The thought of a romantic encounter with someone that you've never been with is normal. It's your actions that make you a real man and a faithful husband...a man of character.

  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well I hate to break it to you but women go through the same thing. I have a good friend of mine that is a guy. He knows my husband works long hours and that I don't like being alone all the time so we started hanging out shooting pool watching Hockey. What have you. Anyway when I noticed that I was enjoying the attention to much I cut back. I still talk to him on the phone and I was up front with my husband about what was going on but I only hang out with him if my husband is around as well. I would never cheat on my husband he is my life but I felt like a horrible person just for spending time with someone that I had so much in common with. It is a fine line we cross when we start to entertain thoughts of others. Not because of what we may or may not do but because we are coming really close to hurting those who we hold dear.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    Wow ! What are you ? the idea police ? How dare you invade the guidelines of somebody else and experience like it is your precise to subject them on your abuse ? Ever hear of privateness ? Who needs to target to justify each and every idea they have ? they're all area of being a man or woman . we assume of about all sorts of issue's appropriate to others, it truly isn't any longer a criminal offense , it truly isn't any longer adultery , it truly isn't any longer dishonest , so what are you wondering right here ? If he acted on his ideas and did the deed , then it truly is lengthy gone previous wishing , to doing , and that can be a diverse tale . Marriages have their united statesand downs this is a low aspect in a unmarried considering that , yet both real , it could be a starting off aspect for both of you to reconcile your adjustments and open up verbal substitute for healing to ensue . it truly is totally glaring that complications exist , yet they're conceivable complications that both of you may artwork by skill of .

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  • 1 decade ago

    I think it is normal to be attracted to other women while you are married. It is normal to see someone and think wow he or she is amazing and if I was single I would jump at the chance. To act on it is not good. You married your spouse and you promised to be faithful to them. You just need to get closer and get those old feeling back that you two once had. It really isn't hard to so just bring up the past and the good memories you shared with one another. Have plenty of communication and hot romance and that spark will lead you down a path where you will not want to cheat but both of you have to work on that one.

  • 1 decade ago

    Had the same problem man. The only suggestion I can give to you is to spice up your current relationship a bit. The reason you get these crushes is because you want something new and exciting. But like you said, you'll never act on them, so you might as well not waste time stressin over someone you have a crush on.

  • 1 decade ago

    I know this is going to sound silly but I used to work for someone who would wear a rubber band around his wrist and whenever he felt the urge to take a second lookor felt like he was bing hit on he would snap that rubber band - He said that he did that so that he copuld remind himself of the pain he would cause to the people aound him - and then he laughed and would say the pain of having two women...

    Take any analogy you want from it, but I think the pain might mean a lot of things.

  • jewel
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    you can't avoid having feelings for other women,and you can't help who you fall in love with,its even ok to fantasize about them ,it seems obvious you love your wife so if the relationship is good why worry about it?just try to avoid situations where you might end up alone with the person you have the 'crush'on especially if you have had a falling out with your wife or your having problems.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think the best advice would be is to never let yourself get in a compromising situation (i.e. alone with the person that you have a crush on) In a case like that temptation could get the best of you both and you end up in a situation that you don't want to be in.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you know or care what's good for you.............most men don't, start thinking with your big head and pay no attention to the little one. It will get you in trouble every, single time!

    Source(s): Been there, seen that
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    don't put yourself into a situation where you might cheat..and if you loved someone then you would never think about cheating on them. If you do think about cheating then you need to question yourself about who you are with

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