Anonymous
Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

im dealing with a break up process now. need a help!!!!?

im mad on my husband cause he shared the info i asked him not to tell to his mum. then i had unpleasant conversation with her. now i wanna break up with him cause i cant trust him anymore. he betrey me. answer me what to do???

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Honey, You would throw away everything else good you have with this man over one incident? Could he have told his mom trying to get advise, and some understanding? I know you must be very upset. But think of it like this, will it really matter next week? Next Year? A relationship has up's and down's, sometimes you give more than the other, it is something you will constantly work at always. Forgiveness is a very important part of that relationship. Sit down with him and tell him how you feel and that you wish he would keep your confidences in the future. Hug and kiss and makeup. One day you may make a mistake and I hope he forgives you the same.

  • SP
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    This is just a passing phase...I would urge you to forgive and forget that it actually happened. If you had been rude to your MIL just say "sorry". It really heals a relationship and the person who apologizes first is considered mature. It is a lesson learnt. From now on if you have such an important piece of info that it is so very sensitive and it should not go out of you...please try to keep it to yourself. Do not even divulge it to your husband as you now know his weakness. I feel that break up is not a good remedy for this situation.

    I also would like you to be less touchy, it really helps in life wherein you meet a lot of insensitive people and if you are so touchy you will end up hurting yourself.

  • 1 decade ago

    First of all, the both of you said vows in the presence of God to love and stay together for better or for worst. People go through major struggles in relationships (much worst than this). Please don't think I'm discounting your concerns, but to leave your husband over something like this would be a big mistake and you might regret it later. Please sit down with him and explain how much him not keeping this information confidential has hurt you and has caused some major trust issues. Since he took the same vows that you did, hopefully, he will understand where you are coming from and work this out with you. The both of you will probably encounter problems larger than this one, but the main thing is that you remember the vows you took and strive to make your marriage work. Good Luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    Are you breaking up with your husband just because he shared your secret with his mother??? I know that you feel he betrayed you but that is not a reason for a break up. If this is a serious problem and you feel betrayed what you must do is talk about it. You should let him know how you feel and how important the secret was for you. May be he told his mum because he thought it was ok or the information was causing him truble and he went for advice. If you talk to him and he shows you he does not care, then that is a different problem and you may want to break up. But if he regreats about what he did and explains his reasons may be you would like to reconsider it. You are not boyfriend and girlfriend, you are a married couple and you made a commitment for life.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I've been married for about 5 yrs and i think you might be taking it a little too far. I think you should sit your husband down and have a serious conversation if you really want your marriage to work. Just remember there are worse things that could happen in a relationship then a misunderstanding.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    wow .... you want to leave him just cause you had an uncomfortable conversation? There is probably more to the break up than that. Since you are married maybe you should go try a counselor first. If that doesn't work out then maybe think about the next step.

  • mosaic
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    You husband betrayed you once by passing along some information and you want to break up with him? Sounds like the relationship wasn't too good in the first place then.

    Have you ever thought of communicating your hurt and working things out? Yikes.. I hope this is your BIGGEST problem that you will have with him.

  • 1 decade ago

    you want to "break up" with your husband. isnt that Divorce? not sure. divorce is a big deal...should require some more thought.

    but if the info he shared betrayed your trust and its THAT important to you that you cant get over, then it will always bother you and you will continue to have problems in the long run. you have to decide if its worth forgiving. how big of a deal was it?

  • 1 decade ago

    if he is ur husband i would expect u to tell him secrets but if he is a mamas boy then i would expect him to tell his mama. the thing is she had no right to talk to u, she should have let it go and not have bothered. the qn is do u still love him and if u do don't break it off. if he cheated on u than yeah break it off bec that's where u cant trust him but just talk to him and ask him if next time u tell him a secret, if he could just keep it to himself. hun sorry to say this but u married a drama queen that loves gossip

  • 1 decade ago

    Calm down. Talk to him about the situation and ask him why did he tell his mother? This isn't as bad as him cheating on you. If you feel you can't confide to him I guess you can divorce him and see how you feel? Seems like there is no more love in this relationship.

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