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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

help. family issues!?

ok. my family in philadelphia are coming over here to FL for christmas break. and the onlii thing is that they dont want tos pend christmas at our house! they rather stay in a hotel. and my feelings at this moment are "ouch. why dont they wanna spend it with us, the whole point of them coming to FLORIDA is to spend christmas with US!" no wht i mean? so ne wayz. they will prolly stay at DISNEY. in a hotel. but im still trying to convince them to drive to our house first and spend christmas with us, then afterwards they can do their own thing in disney. what should i do? i want them to stay with us for christmas.ne ideas of how i can get them to??!

Update:

yeah. i dont think u guyz understand me. its not a burden to them and they noe it. WE ARE FAMILY. we are able to tell each other everything. we aint americans and onlii see family once a year at family reunions. we seee each other in the summer and some holidays. so u ugyz just arent on my level. thanx ne wayz. but ur answers suck. hell yea im appreciative they coming. but hey gotta be evil bout it and dont put our feelings in consideration. jeez. freakin americans

Update 2:

Its just agrivation. alright. too many things goin on in my mind right now. i have the right to say anything i want in the heat of the moment. so yeah. dont care. thanx for none of the help. and i hate the smart people. "i dont noe." and "you need to spell"

i come on this thing for answers... k thanks bye

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Talk to them and tell them them what you would like. I know that a lot of people stay at hotels when visiting relatives because they don't want to impose. Maybe they want to have a mini vacation when they visit as well.

  • 1 decade ago

    They may feel more comfortable in a hotel. That way you and they have privacy. By the way how do you know the ones whose answers you dont like are freaking americans. You cant assume that. If you want to be treated nice dont call people names. Have a good day and Merry Christmas.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well I'd let them stay in a hotel if they are more comfortable there but definately they should come over for Christmas. Maybe then you could go to Disney with them?

  • You don't have family issues. You have selfish issues. They coming from Philidelphia to see you. That should be enough. Why not combine activities and other things while they're there. I'd do the same thing. I don't like staying at others homes either. Be thankful they're coming, that you have a family and that they can...afford Disney.

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  • 1 decade ago

    If they don't want to, they're not going to. Don't push them. They won't like you for it. You can still have a great Christmas together without them sleeping in your house. So, let it go and get over it. Enjoy their company while you have it.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think u have to talk to them directly...tell them that u want them in ur home for christmas...let them know how u feel and ask them why they dun wanna spend it with u, maybe they have their own reasons for it....either way, be upfront is better than making assumptions abt it.

  • punkin
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    1 decade ago

    maybe they feel like it's less stress if they stay at a hotel and they may want to tour the sites while here.Then again,when they do come to your home,let them feel how much you missed them and want them around for these holidays and they just might feel your sincerity and decide to stay a night or two.just be your self and show your love regardless of their decision and don't take it personally if they don't stay.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Be grateful that they're willing to stay in a hotel. Less of a mess for you to clean up after.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    ITS NOT THAT THEY DON'T WANT TO STAY.. THEY DON'T WANT TO IMPOSE ON YOU GUYS...SO DO NT GET UPSET IT HAPPEN TO THE BEST OF US......IF THEY ARE SET IN THEIR OWN WAYS LET THEM BE.....ITS A BLESSING TO HAVE THEM HERE TO SEE....ITS NOT OFTEN THAT I GET SEE MY SIBLINGS....I BE THRILL JUST TO KNOW THEY ARE LIVING......AND IF THIS THEIR FIRST TIME TO YOUR NEW HOME YOU SHOULD UNDERSTAND.....LET THEM BE.......ENJOY THEM AIN'T XMAS MEAN: ITS THE TIME FOR FAITH AND FAMILY?

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