My bf broke up with me 3 days ago and i'm going to his parents place for the winter and i still want him back

B/c i dont have my own home here and the ticket has already been bought and everything. So i'm still going basically b/c i need a place to stay for the break. My bf is stressed out during the past finals week and we broke up b/c it's just too much for him. He doesnt know what he wants b/c when he wants me i'm always there for him to get me. So this time i think it's good for us to take a break, like after the break we'll totally cut off contact for a month, 2 months or even longer(we are long distance anyway). Maybe after that he'll figure out what he wants. But deep down i still want us to work it out. Since we are gonna be living together for the winter, i dont know how i should act around his place b/c we are not bf/gf anymore.Plus, he's still stressed out about his school work, he isnt doing so well. but he doesnt wanna talk about it, not just to me, to anyone, he's just that kind of person who likes to keep it to himself.How could i help him release stress if he doesnt wanna talk?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    You are trying too hard. You should take care of yourself, not him. "How could i help him release stress if he doesnt wanna talk?". You can't help him is he doesn't want your help. Just be frinds with him,make it clear to him that you are not chasing him. Once he feels that, he might be back.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think that you should give him his space, still love him, and that will be the best way for him to release stress. If he doesn't want to talk about it, he's probably a more introverted sort of person and de-stresses better when he's alone. So probably after he sorts things out and feels better he'll come back to you. I'm sure he'll appricate the space you're giving him, and if you keep loving him, I think it will work out. For myself, I'm waiting for someone who's Serious about a relationship. And as far as how to act around his parent's place, just act natural, be nice to everyone, and things will go smoothly and won't be awkward.

    Hope that helped :)

  • 1 decade ago

    You can not make him talk if he doesn't want to. Time will tell but may be you are wasting your time. There are stories that their ex-gfs have become their wives. Remember: " A good conversation creates a good relationship likewise a good long conversation... " Also, remember this saying: " if you love someone set him free, if he comes back he is meant to be. " You are no longer bf/gf, so there is no need to stay living with him at his place this winter. May be " time will tell ", but if all you have to do is " wait and see ", you won't be able to find a new bf. " It is easier to find someone the way you want him to be without changing that person. " Take care and Good luck. God bless!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    get be calm ,cool and act as though nothing happened.go to his home ,be as friendly as u can with his family members and if u r close to his dad or mom ,smartly and carefully talk to them,and also as u have written in ur question that he is stressed so much that he doesnot want to talk with anyone,so the best think i guess with guys is not to go on ask or tell them anything when they r stressed ,just behave normal,this will melt him and i am sure he will speak out his problem with u and if this is ur destiny then both of u will patchup and go on happily in life.great time -CHRISTMAS is on the corner and sure things will be fine by god's grace .take care bye.

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  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    i'm assuming you adult adult males have been quite close jointly as going out or previously or something like that so whenever you spot him you dont ought to declare plenty each and every of the time. a grin and a hug can pass an prolonged way in making him sense greater suited.

  • 1 decade ago

    You b/f is infidel. He is untustworthy. Such friends are not to be chased. If he is not talking to you, it means he is involved somewhere else. Please shun the idea of his meeting and taking you in his arms. He is interested in some othe girl. You should give him very cold attention. Do not look at him. He is not a good person. He is not a perfect gentleman. Say to him "Be Off". You will get another one. rest assured. Good Luck. and be happy.

  • 1 decade ago

    Just tell him that when he is ready to talk you will be there. and act natural around him and his parents... be your self. take him to the gym and work out tell him to go to the punching bag.

    Source(s): personal experience
  • 1 decade ago

    be a friend...and move on...if he broke up with you because he was stressed...that would mean he couldn't handle being with you while anything stressfull in his life happens...so just be a good friend...he'll appreciate it and will appriciate you

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Let him go. Be civil, be his friend, but move on. I promise you the sooner you do this the better off you'll be.

  • 1 decade ago

    sorry got lost in b/c

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