Why have I never, ever in my entire life felt any 'chemistry' toward anyone?

I have never had any 'crushes' or felt anything remotely endearing toward anyone. I dont' even like them, I am extremely against them, I am extremely against many things. I am an extremely emotional person, and very caring, but never toward people. An example is that I bend over backwards to help people, some that I don't even know and often at my own expense. I, philisophically and morally care deeply for everything. (And also hate it too) What I don't understand is why, if I do all of this, why is it that I have never, ever felt that way. I can count only three people in the whole world who mean anything to me. Why...It sounds egotistical to say it, but I am very intelligent and even more, well, strange. Kind of a meaningless phrase in most uses, but I am a very good person. I just wish I could more easily care about other people. Why don't I.

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12 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
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    Some people are just not people people. I am not a shrink, but often people like you had a lousy childhood, maybe your mom was always putting you down, I don't know, but you developed a dislike to people. I believe you are a good person and my guess is that you love animals. I think you need a friend but you have a hard time connecting to anyone. Its not a good way to live. Some shrink help would be a good idea. He can help you to better relate to people. I think you have to high expectations of other people and push or scare them away when they don't act exactly as you would like. You have to be more tolerant and accepting of other people. Like I said, I'm not a shrink and I could be full of crap, but that's my take on it. Good luck and loosen up.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My first question is how old are you? Up until a few months ago I was just this same way. I'm nice and kind and help everyone I can, but I've never felt that magical connection to anyone, but lately I have and it sort of bothers me now because it's happened.

    Also it doesn't help that it's not who I ever would have guessed I'd like...

    As to why you're like this...who knows. We're all different some people don't ever want to be with anyone else romantically and some people say that's unhealthy but I don't think it is.

    I wanted to like other people more easily too, but now that I am...I don't know how to express myself, because I've never had to before. I'm sure I'm missing all the right times to say things to this person, but I'm SURE they don't feel the same about me, so count yourself lucky that you haven't had any crushes on anyone. The whole thing is driving me insane.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    One you're 25 and that may no longer old. i'm 28, and that i nonetheless have that subject. Love is meant to be complicated if it got here extremely uncomplicated then we'd have no longer something to artwork for and we'd substitute into bored. the two your expectancies are too intense (my concern) or you're purely coming around the incorrect human beings. you could desire to take a step lower back and make certain what makes you no longer purely like the adult adult males that such as you. Are you judging based purely on looks etc. i'm initiating to learn that looks are not each and everything, significant (ought to be attracted) yet no longer each and everything. Are you nonetheless demanding approximately what your friends would think of approximately your bf? if so end, you're relationship them, no longer your friends. purely think of approximately it, because you're taking this long to locate somebody it purely potential once you do it is going to likely be spectacular. that's how i verify out it. I even have dated such fairly some adult adult males and it hasn't worked out. i began relationship a guy and to this point it form of feels too stable to be authentic.. carry in there.

  • 1 decade ago

    They say that love and caring is taught in the early years of life, and whatever you get shown at that age you remember and store and use eventually.

    Question 1. Chemistry -. overused and overrated word. Strike it out of your vocabulary. You and maybe a few hundred thousand others never felt that so called "chemistry" .

    When the moment and the right person comes, you will feel a "connection" more than anything else. It will be like meeting another part of you.

    Wait and see. It will happen..

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  • 1 decade ago

    You just haven't found the right person yet. I've only had chemistry with one person in my entire life and I am married to him.

    Not to mention you could be having feelings that cover up any chemistry you could have. Like if you are an anxious person, that will over ride any chemistry. Something to consider.

  • 1 decade ago

    You can't force chemistry, it is either there or it is not. Believe me, I can go years without meeting someone I have chemistry with. Hopefully along the way we still get to meet people we like anyway (ie like but without the chemistry), but that depends on the circumstances. You win some you lose some.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would suggest counselling also, your obviously dealing with some complecated stuff. It helped me a little, and I can understand some of these feelings your talking about.

  • 1 decade ago

    I can see you're a very nice person, and wise too. You're just more protective of your feelings then other people.

  • 1 decade ago

    Anti social

  • 1 decade ago

    Why not seek some counseling on figuring it out. You could have something as simple as a hormone imbalance that is blocking certain neurotransmitters.....emotions are hormonal reactions!

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