Anonymous
Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

Why do family members have to create drama?

haha guess I am just posting to vent. My sister and I almost never speak, I tried many times to become friends with her, but she abused the situation every time, so I stopped trying and just deal with her on the most minimal level possible, we only see each other at family gatherings. I only hear from her if she wants something. We are just too different to get along, any time I tried to make plans with her or bridge the gap she either stands me up on the plan and never shows, or she will verbally attack me. Even when we were kids, she would always treat me badly and set me up for falls. My mom got the great idea to intervene and get us to talk out our differences. Now my sister has gotten even worse. She is badmouthing me to family and saying that she is not the problem in our relationship, that it has to be someone else that is upsetting me (because she is so perfect) I give up, but my mom keeps making it worse with repeated attempts to get us to like each other. I had enough!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    She's creating drama because deep inside, she feels like a loser and has no other way to get attention. Your mom knows she's the weaker sister, and feels guilt and pity, so she's pushing you (the more stable one) to resolve it. The normal people in your family understand this.

  • 1 decade ago

    For what ever reason, your sister has her god-given right to ***** about what-ever she wants too. Your best bet is to just ignore the situation and just make sure you have a happy and healthy life. When you go to your families house and she is there, then just have a good time and ignore her. If she starts something, then she is the one that started it, not you. When she starts it, just tell her that you are not getting into it, and if she has a problem then both of you can go and talk about it like adults away from the rest of the family and figure it out. If she keeps it up and doesn't want to do that, then tell her that she is the problem and the one causing the problems and ignore her again.

  • 1 decade ago

    Sounds like you have the right idea...minimal contact. Your sister obviously has some hang ups that she wants to pin on you. Until she can show some maturity I'd keep it the way you have been keeping it. You may want to try talking to mom again about her kind attempts for a reconciliation. It just isn't going to happen until your sister gets some help. Stand your ground...and vent away!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    My sister has 6 kids, one is under 6 months by 3 different guys and her ex husband still stays the night at her house when he comes to see the kids (he lives like 6 hours away) and she has remarried. She drinks alot and always calls my mom (late at night) saying her life is bad and she is just gonna kill herself. Well needless to say- I don't talk to her and I hear all this from my mom. I hate family drama. Sorry you have a mom that pushes it- my mom wants her to stop too.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I have 9 siblings. Just because youre related doesn't mean you have to get along. Sometimes it's just not worth it. My life is simpler to just choose not to have those that create chaos in my life.

  • 1 decade ago

    It's called 'family' and e/one's got em. Just make it clear that you're not gonna participate in the nonsense any longer.

    Cant fight with someone who refuses to participate.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I haven't seen my sister in 20 years, because of something like this. If you let her mess with you, she will. Move on, move out, or move over.

  • 1 decade ago

    Geeze....I dunno, but I call it "homemade drama" and my family is masterful at creating it too. Thanksgiving is now over and if I can survive the next two big holidays without pissing anyone off, I'll be truly blessed this year. Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    it's your decision not your moms.

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