Does God allow divorce in an unhappy marriage?
- Amy MLv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
i don't know about what god thinks but divorce is perfectly legal
- 1 decade ago
The BIBLE clearly states that divorce is only allowed when the couple does not get along(fighting all the time), and if one has commited adultry. I have it understood that GOD does not want an unhappy marriage b/c marriage is about love, companionship, and understanding of one another. There needs to be a good reason for a divorce. Always look at divorce as the last option. And Yes, GOD does exist. If he wouldn't then you wouldn't exist either. You live because he gives you the air, light, and life. No other reason. Please try to solve your problems, and again, let divorce be the last option.
Please protect Marriage!!!!!!!!!Protect Marriage in today's world.Source(s): BIBLE
- faithLv 51 decade ago
In the bible it says that God doesn't want you to divorce. The only reason you are supposed to divorce is because of infedelity and you're supposed to try to work through that first! You can look up in the bible the word marriage and it has many verses on that subject. Pray for God to help you and your spouse find happiness again. That's the problem with couples today, they give up so easily. Marriage isn't always a bed of roses, but in the end it's worth the work!
- uniquechildLv 51 decade ago
The only grounds for divorce in a marriage is where a partner has commited adultery. God still hates divorce. I guess if the situation is abusive and life threatening I think God would intervene and draw the line, but I doubt he will allow divorce. Is there no chance of working things out? I think it might be good to ask for separation so that you can both sort yourselves out and your differences too.
My friend my marriage too had gone sour at one point until I realised that unless one of us made an effort, things would not get better. I chose to seek counselling for myself, since my dear man did not think he needed it when he needed it more than I did. He never considered himself to be the wrong one. Our relationship[ was childish to say the least and so I decided time to change things. I sought christian counselling and it was deep and good and I began to grow in leaps and bounds. He made rude comments about my counsellor, but later when he saw me change for the better began to like what he saw. I got calmer and so did he.
I also began reading the book about the praying wife by Susie Ormarins. I read Captivating by Jon and Staci Elderedge as well as Wild at heart by John Elderedge. I began applying what I read and it made a tremendous difference too. Try this route. Dont quit. God can restore you and he will if you let him!. When you change your partner also changes - even without counselling!
I really am going to put you on my prayer list and I pray God heals all the wounds and you find the beauty out of the ashes! God richly bless you!
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- 1 decade ago
Normally, I'd ask you what the situation is, but honestly the answer is no. According to the bible the only cases where divorce are acceptable are when there has been infidelity - if and only if you have tried everything and simply can't make it work afterwards or if your spouse is not a Christian and wants out of the marriage.
I'd say a Christian marriage counselor is your best bet.
- albertLv 41 decade ago
Gosh thats so sad, first to be married and happy you both have to be happy with yourself first, if one isn't it causes lost of stress and pain on the other cause the unhappy one blames his or her unhappiness on their spouce.I dont personally believe in Divorce but I have been divorced once where I had absolutly no choice, she cheated and left me, maybe thinking the grass was greener over yonder well her escapaid lasted one month shes now alone and im remarried after 11 years and very happy.It takes 2 always cause just one will result in disaster sooner or later, if your unhappy before you ruin what you have take a good look at yourself before you distroy your mates life and all involved.Good luck
- 1 decade ago
According to the Bible, he will only recognize a divorce if the spouse has cheated. Just being unhappy in God's eyes is not a reason. From a spiritual aspect, seek counseling and talk to your pastor if you have a idea that your spouse maybe cheating and thats why you are unhappy you may have grounds.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
The vows before God say, "In sickness and in health, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, until death do you part." Well, but if you get unhappy, just do whatever you want??? No! "What God has joined together, let no person put asunder." If you're going to divorce due to "unhappiness" you're going to have to do it with the understanding that you are breaking a vow you made before God.
- 1 decade ago
Not at all. You committed to loving her and taking care of her till death do you part (that goes for her too). The Bible says that you could only divorce through adultery. Every single couples have problems. Especially if they've been married for a while. Talk to your wife and express your feelings. Nothing is impossible for God. When was the last time you told your wife you loved her, took her out for a movie, gave her the warmest kiss......? Remember that women are the weaker vessel, and as a man you should be praying asking God to direct your life with her. Go back to the day you fell in Love with her, and try to re-live the moments. Hold her hand, tell her to look into your eyes, and let her know that you both need to talk. Take her to Starbucks, and let it all out. My husband and I write the stuff that we are having issues with then discuss them together. Making up is alot of FUN!!!
- txguy8800Lv 61 decade ago
I'm not this holy-roly Christian that preaches all the time,but if you really want to know what God says, he gives two examples in the Bible (Please don't ask me where?)
1. He says that if your spouse is unfaithful. Having relations with somebody else, then you can get a divorce.
2. If a spouse abuses the other (physical or mental), there are grounds here for divorce.
The rest of your options are up to you, but these two are in the bible.
- DanelleLv 51 decade ago
If your simply unhappy, then NO, he does not allow it. When you took the vows, you took them for life. The only way God allows divorce is if your spouse has cheated on you and you can not overcome the pain. That is the only way you will be forgiven for breaking the sacred vows of marriage.