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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingAdolescent · 1 decade ago

Parents only(preferably if your kids are around the teen years or older)?

Hypothitically speaking:

If your teen son molested your toddler grandchild and that grandchilds parents pressed charges,how would you react. Try to think of about it honestly.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I think, at first, I would probably not want to believe that my son could possibly do something so horrible to his niece or nephew. But, realistically, a teenager who is a molester needs serious help. You want to always be supportive to all your children and the parents of the toddler will also be either your son or daughter as well. So, as a parent I would feel a need to be loyal to both children. The pain of this situation would be horrendous, I can hardly imagine such a thing, but it does happen. It tears families apart. I have always been a firm believer that my kids must learn to accept the consequences of their actions. It would be hard, but if my son were arrested for child molestation, then I would want him to be punished for that and then I would hope that I could help him find the help he needed to not be a molester.

  • 1 decade ago

    Been there. . .only it wasn't a grandchild. We were devastated. He was put in foster care, then treatment centers for 3 years. We spent a lot of time and money in court, in therapy (individual and family). He was released when he was almost 17 and is listed as a sex offender (and might be for life). He was victimized when he was 6 and 7 and we didn't know it (he was threatened to be killed) and he acted out when he was 13. There is no excuse for it. He knew what he was doing. The mental health treatment was excrutiating. We questioned over and over again what we did wrong (and found out we did nothing wrong as parents because HE was the victim and acting out what he had been taught).

    While it is rare, he has not reoffended. He is now much older and married with 4 children. He is working and has a decent home life. He still has issues on occasion but he knows how to handle them and does. Sexual victims rarely get over their victimization and are often traumatized for life, BUT they can, with therapy, learn to deal with the issues. 10+ yrs later he still sees a therapist to help him.

  • 1 decade ago

    I have 6 kids, the youngest at home is a boy, 18. If any of my kids was accused of such a thing, I would want proof, just as if I were on a jury for the trial. If guilty, I would want them to "do their time" . I would pray for them and in that, hope for a recovery from such horrible thoughts and wants. I would still love the son, but I would never condone such behavior.

  • 1 decade ago

    Any parent would be upset. But molestation happens because the person is a sick individual and needs help. If he is prosecuted and is known to be a good child my advice is to talk to the judge and ask him to get him help. Good Luck

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    been there, your not alone except for it was cusin. the family needs to frist be in prayer together for any healing to go forward the victim will need alot of counceling so that he/she can over come as for the teen he needs alot of treatment from experts he may have been abused but he needs to address his issue for his sexual act but in no way should he be alone he should feel a security blanket of love wrapped around him as well as the victim family and individual counceling and alot of family prayer together with the victim and perpertrator you all should be able to overcome GOD BLESS & gl sorry for your crisist

  • 1 decade ago

    I think he should be charged,he's well old enough to know what he was doing. And she may have to deal with this trauma the rest of her life.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    He needs help and needs to be put in prison for life.

  • 1 decade ago

    It would be a terrible family tragedy....I would be devastated...Counselling for the whole family would be in order but intensified personal counselling for the son and grand-daughter...Tragic...

  • 1 decade ago

    I would make sure my baby had the help he so desperately needed. The I would make sure my grandbaby was counseled. I am sorry for your heartache..

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