Why cant i get pregnant My Boyfriend has a kid from a diff women ??????
We have been trying to concieve for about 2months now, my period is regular, I ovulate, never been on pills or any other contraceptive, my boyfriend sperm count is not low. my boyfriend has a 1year old girl and he wants to have other one so we tryed but i just cant get pregnant WHY????? What else could be the reason why we can't get pregnant?
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
I am also with a man with a child, and we are not intentionally trying to concieve, but we are trying. We have been having unprotected sex for over 5 months and I still have not gotten pregnant. I also have not been on any type of birth control or any other contraceptive. It also seems like everyone else around me, especially friends are getting pregnant. Not that it really bothers me or anything, but I figure that God has a time for everyone. Maybe it isn't the right time to get pregnant, because there could be a situation coming up that may prevent the both really putting much attention to a child. Everything happens for a reason, and things happen when they are suppose to. So, just relax and stop focusing on just trying to get pregnant, enjoy life and your relationship. When it is meant for you to get pregnant you will. I pray that it happens during a time when you are stable and life is good. God Bless and Good Luck.
- KimLv 44 years ago
I am the mother of one - I fell pregnant the one and only time in my life I had unprotected sex. I've never received criticism from someone struggling to conceive for that, but I would take great offence if I did for one reason - I am a very good mother to my son and whether it took me half an hour or 5 years to fall pregnant, nothing would change that, and I have just as much right to be a mother as anybody. Having said that, I can understand the bitterness someone may feel within themselves towards someone like me - I can't understand the emotions a would-be-mother must go through when she can't have the family she longs for, so I would never judge someone for thinking these thoughts, but I do not think that is cause for taking them out on people who conceive easily for the reason I just gave. However I think abortion is a different story. I am not a Christian, so I don't buy into the 'don't judge others until you're perfect yourself' line - are you saying you would not judge a rapist if you drank one unit of alcohol a week? Bullshit, I don't believe anybody follows that theory, there is nobody in this world that doesn't judge and there is nobody in this world that is completely perfect. I read a post on here a short while ago from a girl saying she'd had 2 abortions, the last of which was a little over a month prior, and that she was pregnant again and having her third. I can COMPLETELY understand the anger and emotion a woman who can't conceive would feel towards someone like this with so little respect for life other than herself. The abortion of a healthy foetus for convenience purposes disgusts me - people talk about the woman's right to choose, what about the baby's right to live? Oh that's right, it's a 'bunch of cells'. A bunch of cells with a heartbeat and feeling by the time most choose to abort. It has the potential grow into a beautiful little baby, and then a beautiful and healthy adult, but people out there are too selfish to give up 9 months of their life to take responsibility for their actions and allow someone to live because it's too damn inconvenient for them? If I was struggling to make a family I would HATE these people.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
i hope he's the only guy you've been with considering you've never used ANY contraceptives - CONDOMS!!!! you may have caught something that just hasnt shown any symptoms yet from him or someone else that's causing infertility, especially if he hasnt been tested recently. first, see an ob/gyn and get tested for all STD's and HIV. then have a pap smear, pelvic exam, and HPV test. second, see a doctor for an annual physical exam of the rest of your body. if all results are negative and it's confirmed that your healthy as far as everything else as well as having a normal period then maybe it's him. he should also be checked for everything. just because he got one woman pregnant doesnt mean that nothing has effected him since then. if both of you are fine then try techniques to help you both relax since your more likely to concieve during orgasm, so make sure you are getting pleasure from the experience. try using an ovulation test to make sure it's the best time. they are usually sold at drugstores near the pregnancy tests. also, try to be patient so your not stressed out or anxious which can also make conception difficult. good luck!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
first off have you two been together long enough to even be thinking about having a child, second of all two months of trying to conceive is too early to be worrying about problems. I would suggest that you two wait a little bit longer to build a stronger relationship to ensure some kind of stability between the two of you before trying to have a kid, that is a major step in a relationship that to me doesnt sound like you two have been together long enough to have built up to. I have been with my husband for almost four years after knowing him personally for 7 years and I am still learning more about him but when we had our son we were both ready not only financially but emotionally and also mentally ready to do so because we of course were married and had known each other for a long period of time. Just wait a bit sweetie there is plenty of time to get pregnant no need to rush into something that you may regret later.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
maybe God is telling you not to get pregnant by a man who has a 1 yr old from a different woman! you guys can't have been together for very long. if he wants another child, why doesn't he want committment first. i would evaluate your relationship, and see if there is something there that will last. having a baby is very stressful on a relationship. why is he not still with the other woman? take a good look.
- 1 decade ago
Ok if he gots a 1 year old, obviously he aint with that baby mama, whys he gonna stick with you? If I could go back, Id be married first........FOR REAL!!! Cuz then it means he really wants to be with YOU, not use u as a baby machine!!!! But if you want to learn the hard way, just bang every day, and eat right, take prenatal vitamins, it can take a while, its normal
- mamaLv 51 decade ago
You should get married first. Bring your baby into a solid relationship. Who knows why you aren't conceiving. It could actually be because of the stress of you wanting to be pregnant. Stop trying, and let nature take it's course. You'll be pregnant as soon as you stop trying. Good luck!
- amosunknownLv 71 decade ago
For two months? Honey thats nothing. Most women MOST women dont get pregnant for around 6 months.
- ByakuyaLv 71 decade ago
2 months is nothing.. you're supposed to work on concieving for about a year before seeking medical help.. but why are you having a baby out of wedlock?
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Maybe it's a sign that now just isn't the right time for him to have another kid.