ive been married 1416 yrs and hub cheated and got her preggo am i stupid 4 stayin for my girls and I do luvhim
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Maybe it's a good time for you to go to school and finally learn English.
- 1 decade ago
No, you are not stupid.
You do need to sit down and really think this through. Don't just hang on to your old idea of loving him. Take into account that he has done something that has shown you another side of himself. You might find yourself resenting it for a long time and how is he going to react when you need to talk about it over and over and over?
Also, think about the other woman and child. What is his relationship with the mother going to be? Will you ever be able to trust that he is just visiting the baby? Or are you going to accept this woman into your life? How will this other child fit into your family? It will be a brother/sister to your own and if you and your husband split then your girls would get to know this other sibling, so how will it work if your family stays together? How will you feel about the maintenance payments for this child coming out of your family budget?
Boy oh boy, you really have your work cut out for you. That is why people split, because it is the easy option.
The hardest thing will be that even though you had no responsibility in this happening, you will be the one who will suffer more and will have to do most of the hard work and adjusting.
Give yourself a lot of time to make a final decision.
- meadorsLv 44 years ago
Your too youthful.. no longer something worse than being a divorced lady once you're 25.. Your pastor is nuts.. Sorry to assert, yet why might want to he advise marriage except the very actuality you're sexually energetic. that isn't any longer reason sufficient to get married at your age. stay jointly and spot what occurs. If something, set a date 5 years from now. once you're nonetheless going solid that is properly worth it. Paying your own employ and expenses is sufficient of a try.. because you're both nonetheless residing which include your mom and father, ITS a large MISTAKE to even evaluate getting married!!! you do no longer recognize how a lot you'll replace between now and the age of 27.. you'd be wiser and better than in all likelihood have a thoroughly diverse outlook on existence.
- 1 decade ago
Its a tuff decision at this point. I just found out mine cheated on me. She tried to say she was pregnant (but she isn't). If you feel in heart you two can work past it, then seek some counseling if possible. Having the other woman in your face all the time is going to be a challenge to say the least. You are going to have a constant reminder of what he has done. Never stay in a relationship that is not right for you just because of the kids. It causes more trauma on them to watch you fight then it is to separate from your husband. The choice is strictly up to you. But take it from someone that is going through the same dilemma. Love stopped having anything to do with it once they crossed that line.
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- SunflowerLv 61 decade ago
Welcome to the world of:
Baby Momma Drama
Baby Daddy Momma Drama
Daddy Baby Drama with Momma
Daddy Momma Drama
Call the cops on Daddy other Baby Momma Drama
However, this happened to a friend of mines. She divorced her husband. The child was born and her kids loved their new little sister to the point that they stayed over their dad's house with the new girlfriend more than they did their own home with their mother. This hurt her deeply and she has not been right since, mentally.
Best of luck.
- gypsy gLv 71 decade ago
Wow how old were you when you got married? 1416 years of marriage is a very long time. And at 1416 years + he's still knockin' boots? holy moly!
- 1 decade ago
Depends, do you think you can work through it? Some can and some can not. One thing I think people forget is that if a relationship has tension and stress it does reflect on to the kids also if your in a none loving relationship that kids learn how to love someone by watching there surroundings, there parents. This includes affection.
- HowdyThereLv 51 decade ago
you have been married 1416 years? WOW, world record there.
You aren't stupid. But, is he going to change his cheating ways? Are you prepared for husbands 'other' family...??
- Honest InjunLv 41 decade ago
1416 years is enough for anyone!
- travelingirl005Lv 51 decade ago
I'm not going to tell you that you are stupid...however I will tell you that you need to start thinking about yourself and what you need.
I cant imagine the pain that you are feeling.....if you trust him and think things will work out....follow your heart.