micah z asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

My childs Godparents....?

My in-laws have been pressuring my husband and i about our son's baptism. When i finally got everything lined up and we chose god-parents my father-in-law calls me and tells me that my sister-in-law is going to be upset about us not asking her to be Jack's godmother. He ask me to call her and explain to her why i chose my cousin to be his godmother and my husband chose his bestfriend to be jack's godfather. I chose my cousin because we are close,she is responsible, she is catholic. I could have asked my sister but she is already his aunt and plays a huge role in my son's life and i thought the same about my sister-in-law. I wrote a letter explaining this to my sister-in-law and she called me and told me that she does not understand why we do not want her to be part of jack's life. This is not the case at all, why can't being Jack's aunt be enough for her? I am new to this catholicism and i don't understand why people can't just accept our decisions, this goes for my in-laws also

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  • 1 decade ago
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    here is a link you may want to read:

    http://www.americancatholic.org/Newsletters/CU/ac0...

    although i doubt the problem will be solved without someone's feelings getting hurt....

    god bless!!

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    *Is Catholic* No you may no longer substitute godparents. in accordance to Canon regulation, the workplace of the Godparent is everlasting. quite everyone else right here is incorrect. What you're able to do nevertheless is only have yet another buddy help in educating the toddler interior the Catholic faith if the godparents at the instant are too a techniques away. there is not any situation in that. If the godparents are no further sturdy Catholics, you do no longer would desire to enable them to have something to do at the same time with your toddler. The place of the Godparent is a duty of the Godparent to fulfill, that's a non secular vow between them and God that would no longer be transferred. besides, no this would't be replaced, that's on the parish registry. only have somebody else take over the typical jobs of the Godparent (social non secular and otherwise). the only distinction is that the recent persons only isn't on the parish registry. i understand countless people who've new "godparents" because of the fact the others have died or can not fulfill their responsibilities. they are extra so an observed godparent or a non secular consultant.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well being raised in a roman catholic religion i know that my god-parents are closer to me then any other family member. My god-mother was my father's sister, and he has 6 other siblings. But she is the clostest one out of all of them. I talk to her all the time now. I am 21 years old now and still see how it can be such a big deal. But i also see how it isnt. I think you are in the right mind. If your sister in-law wants to be in your sons life she can be a BIG part, as long as she makes the effort. And thinking down the road, when he goes through confirmation he can pick who he wants to be his "sponser" which can also be considered as a god parent. But they usually choose the closest elder to them. In an easier way to put it....its your life, not hers. You have to choose what you want. Not what someone else wants. Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    As the parents, you get to choose who you would like the Godparents to be. If they do not like it, too bad, plain and simple. They will get over it eventually and if they cannot then shame on them for not appreciating the role they already get to play in your son's life. I know you do not want to cause turmoil but sometimes things are out of your hands. Follow through with your decision and do not feel like you should have to explain yourself. Perhaps your husband needs to speak with his family and put them in line.

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  • 1 decade ago

    They don't sound very Christian to me if they're passing judgement onto you. You should do whatever you feel is best for your child. Or....dedicate your child to the Lord instead and when your son is old enough to make his own decision, then he can be baptized into whatever faith he chooses and choose his own Godparents. Good Luck and God Bless!

    Source(s): Experience!
  • 1 decade ago

    Good luck.. I choose my Brother to by my Daughters Godfather and my Sister-in law to be my Daughters Godmother.... My Brother died when my daughter was three. now i feel pressure to choose a replacement for my brother....I don't want to.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It sounds like you made a reasonable decision about your child's religious future, and I can't imagine why the others are giving you a hard time.

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