I can't beleive you've joined account BEFORE you were married, don't you know he has ACCESS to anything you put into that account? NO WAY would I do that, he can do whatever he wants with that money, if he wanted to take it ALL out and put it into an account with just HIMSELF you wouldn't have jackshit! He is manipulative and controlling and things will only get worse from here on in. He will control every aspect of your life, where you go, who you see, he will start picking your friends and limiting time spent with your family, he will pick out your clothes and demand that you stick to a regular shopping budget and if you go over expect some abuse. I suggest you think long an very hard about marrying this guy and GET YOUR MONEY OUT OF THAT JOINT ACCOUNT, if you want any money for yourself that is.