a contolling man broke up with me because i went to spend the last thankgving with my mom...but it still hurts

this guy i have been seeing for about 8 months even though he is a controlling kind of guy and i know i did now want or need a guy like this in my life...and the way he talked to me and treated me sometimes was really bad..i have grandchildren and i want them in my life and he wanted me more to his self all the time..i went down to be with my mom who is dying in a nursing home for thanksgiving and i would of liked to been with him..it hurts to see my mom in her condition...but i come back and i call there and he has another women there who says she is his girlfriend, and has been for the last 2 weeks..well i was with him just a few days ago and i guess he was just lying to me..i think he got mad because i was going to be with my mom...he already informed me he was not going to raise any more kids, grandkids...so why am i hurting over this...i guess it is the way she answered the phone and what she said and he did not have guts enough to tell me anything..any help will be appreciated

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it is not my first love but i thought we had something special..and he said he was faithful but he was not..i knew the abuse and controlling was not for me..but i guess it is the lousy way he did what he did...and he said he loved me..love does not want to hurt someone...let him go and i know i will get over the pain and i would not ever want a man that went out on me...there is nothing left for me to believe in now....

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  • 1 decade ago
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    O.K. First, SNAP OUT OF IT!!! He's not worth it as you've previously said. Second, Your mom is dying, If he can't understand that you may never spend another Thanksgiving with her then clearly he's an asshole and is definately not worth even talking to. Third, he's got the girl on the side, he's scum. It is natural to feel hurt when you find out someone is cheating on you and breaks up with you as well. But look at it like this, You are now free to spend more time taking care of the ones that you love and are worthy of you and your time. In the mean time congratulations on losing a complete loser, now my advice to you would be spend more time with your mother you never know how much you will actually miss them until it is too late. Take good care of yourself, and steer clear of men like the one you just broke up with. They are losers, who have a very low self-esteem, are abusive, and will never change, and completely and totally selfish and don't give a damn about anyone but their selves. Also, I don't write on here for the points. I write on here because I actually care about other people and tell things how they really are I'm sorry if this offends you. Best of luck to you and yours. -James

    Source(s): I know several women who have went down the road you almost went. You lucked out. Best of luck!
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I have no real answer for you. The only thing i can really do is just help you. You will hurt for a while. I want to guess it is your first love or first real big love. It will hurt for a while, but go out with your friends, and try to have fun, don't go just to pick up guys, go out and have fun. A guy like that will only get worse over the time, and the deal is sealed if you married him. At least you found out he is a dick now, rather than 3 years from now when it would hurt even worse. All the best to you hon, and good luck

  • 1 decade ago

    F*ck him you do you. And the other woman is silly and stupid for putting up with him while knowing he is cheating on her. He doesn't deserve to even have a woman and if you still want to be with him and like him you are condoning his behavior. And I'm sorry no man's d*ck is good enough to share with another chick like hey you want some too ok. If he is so self-centered and obnoxious that he can't allow you to spend time with your mother you should punch him in the eye and kick him in the nuts. He is a total loser!!!!!!!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    leave that man alone baby im tellin you i know you dont want to be lonely but someone gone come along so leave that man alone

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you are a god lookin girl - move on find a man that appreciates you - he is not the one

  • 1 decade ago

    Be glad your out of that situation.... Move on!

  • 1 decade ago

    forget about him you don't need someone to rule your life. be your own person

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