HELP please , I separated for 3 month now , caught her talking to 2 men she says just friends , i moved out?
but am depressed i still love her but know she doesnt love me , i am trying to move on but its hard, i work alot so hard to meet another woman , any advise will help thx
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
First of there is no crime in being married and talking to other men, are you saying that you have never talked to another woman in your marraige, I am sure that you have, You need to stop being so jealous and get over your issues. I am sorry that you are in love with her and she is not with you, but thatis the way that life goes sometimes you just need to get over it. As for you trying to find someone so desperatly that is where your problem is. You are trying to hard and it is not going to happen until you are happy again in your life, you need to take time to get over this and then try and find someone new. What you are doing is classic you are so hurt that you want someone to love you to make you feel happy again and that is not going to happen until you happy with yourself, any relationship you get into now will end quickly because you still love someone else, so do yourself a favor take time to get over it and then move on it will work better in the end,
- 1 decade ago
I am a married woman who has more guy friends than girl friends. I find myself more comfortable to talk to a guy than a girl. She probably is telling you the truth that they might be friends but then again she might not. If you know she doesn't love you then you should move on. I know how hard it can be because I have been there before. It will be weird and hard to meet other woman but you should do what will make you happen. don't stress over someone who isn't going to have the same feelings for you ever. Take it slow, it will all heal up for you. I am sorry I don't have great advice but talking about it really helps. Hang in there!
- LuciannaLv 61 decade ago
She was only talking to them and you moved out?
Kind of over reacted, didn't you?
If you know she doesn't care about you, then move on with your life. I know, it's easier said than done, but you can do it.
Avoid any and all contact with her. Don't call her, don't ask friends or family about her and don't go see her. Sever any contact.
Now be patient. You'll start thinking less and less about her until you finally discover that you're hardly thinking about her at all. Occupy your mind with work, or starting a project you've always wanted to do but didn't have time for before. I did jig-saw puzzles and cross stitching to keep my head thinking of other things. Reading also works.
Stop looking for some one to replace her. You're not ready for that yet. Go out with friends and have a good time but don't date yet and don't go looking for a replacement for her.
You need time to grieve and get this out of your system before looking for some one new. And really, aren't you only looking because you want them to make you stop thinking of her?
You'll only be piling more confused emotions on top of the ones you already have. Just leave that situation alone for the moment.
When you're ready to truly look, then you'll know it, until then, don't force the issue. Get over this one before getting involved in another one.
God luck, hope things work out for you.
- SlimsmomLv 61 decade ago
Working a lot should help for awhile, but you can't go on doing that forever. Start hanging out with your friends after work, going to movies, or take fishing trips with buddies. Get out there and socialize. I know it is difficult for you, but if you feel she is untrustworthy, whether she is or not, the relationship doesn't stand much of a chance. Accept the feelings of remorse, they are normal, but don't dwell on them. Hope things get better for you soon. Good luck.
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- ramsLv 41 decade ago
Just by seeing her talk to guys does not mean she doesnt love you any more. Has she said that to you? May be you are just being over possessive. These days people have more friends of opposite sex than of the same sex. Make sure you took the right step.
- 1 decade ago
If your sure she does not love you it's best to just walk away. Most women enjoy a mans attention especially after she broke up a relationship. Take you attention off her if she comes back you may discover you no longer want her. Once you stop focusing on her you'll be surprised at the women you'll meet.
- here to helpLv 41 decade ago
you moved out because she was TALKING to two men? so why didn't you believe her when she said they were just friends? are you that insecure? or, is she not allowed to have friends? i have to say you really need to grow up.i don't think its a good idea for you to meet anyone right now. until you can deal with your insecurities.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Yes, it's hard. And the more you think about her, the harder it'll be.
Focus on YOUR life and move on.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
WOW, you are messed up!!! get some help dude
- 1 decade ago
dude......get around and hang with friends............ive been in the "whats she doing now" phase........it hurts.............only remedy is time and keeping busy.....................