Urgently need advice?
I have been married for 1 month but i have only had sex with my husband once!...he doesnt seem to be interested in sex...we talkted about it and he just said to give him some time..so I did...but nothing changed..today - i went through History to find some documents and I saw loads of porn sites..from the time we returned from our honeymoon....I dont know what to do...I feel so angry and hurt and worried...what if he is addicted to porn and doesnt want me?...have I made a mistake by marrying him...
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
If he isn't ready to satisfy you further for too long despite of your suggestion then it's probably a mistake, what else?
- 1 decade ago
I do not think that this is a big deal. Maybe he feels that he can not satify you. Porn sites really is not all that bad. You should try and look at them too, it will give you some idea's of how he likes it. This will help you get satisfied and him too. Also you should ask him about the porn sites, ask him if you dont do the things that he likes. I mean come on you are married, sex is not the most important, but it is important between 2 people when showing there love for one another. You should be able to talk to him about this with no problem. It's just been a month of marriage, if it continues then get out of the marriage if you are not pleased with the sex.
- 1 decade ago
HUMMM that is a good question? Have you asked him about the porn? How old are the two of you? If you don't mind me asking. I've been married for 18 yrs to the same man I'm in my late 30's he in his early 40's. We do watch it but together but not all the time it is just on some occasions. It does give you a since of naughtiness and excite you at the same time. I'd ask him if you haven't already if he would want you to watch it with him, unless you are not the type of person that would want to. If it bothers you then it will cause you both problems. You'll begin to wonder if it is you or the pron that is turning him on. My best advise to you is to talk to him in this case because he can only answer your question. How long did you to date and did you really get to know one another before you got married. And if you are an older couple it maybe that he is having the type of man problem that a lot of men won't talk about ED. I still say ask him let him know that you are there for him in all points and problems he is having. Good Luck!
- 1 decade ago
It could be that he respects you too much now that you are his wife that he thinks about you as more than just a person to have sex with. Also he might think too highly of you to do the things with you that he is looking at on the web ie. bondage and orgies.
When men aren't interested in having sex with somebody usually it is about the man and has nothing to do with the woman. He may be under stress or be having financial problems after paying for the wedding, or any number of things.
I suggest just surprise him one night naked and if he turns you down then, he turned gay. lol. No but really if he turns you down then you guys need some help. Usaully though when presented with an opportunity (naked woman) the man will forget his problems for a short period of time and give in to the moment.
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- rtanysLv 61 decade ago
I would say that he is finding something in porn that he can't seem to get from you. Is there a specific type of porn that he prefers? Find out what it is. Confront him with this and have a frank discussion about it. Perhaps you can help him to lose interest in the fantasy and ignite a passion for reality.
- She SaidLv 41 decade ago
He is addicted and it has nothing to do with him not wanting you. It is that porn is so stimulating nothing not even the real thing can get the same rush... Get out now !!!! Count it a blessing that you found out so soon and run as fast as your legs can carry you and dont look back, and dont fall for the "baby I can change crap" that will for sure come when he realizes your leaving.... Be smart now and save yourself years of heartach,,, RUN
- 1 decade ago
pornoraphy is not that bad.
try and open your mind to it a little. perhaps you and your hubby could make some of your own home made porn to spice things up?
i used to feel the same way yu did and i would get upset everytime my ex boyfriend would buy porn magazines... but i had to open my mind to it, and once i did, we bought a video camera, made some of our own movies, and managed to bring alot of love and romance back into our relationship.
dont let your husband know you were snooping on the computer....he will never forgive you.
please, just try and open your mind a little to porn, you will be suprised what new sexual positions you can learn from them....
go buy youself something sexy to wear, dim the lights and seduce him!!!!
good luck and all the best
- Anonymous1 decade ago
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- 1 decade ago
No it doesnt mean you madea mstake. I found the same sites on history. I comfronted my husband and told him he needed help...We have disscussed why and whens of the matter. I actually somewhat understand his answers. Since then we have spiced up our love life and been able to decline his site surfing...Also itst better with the computer it cant give you STD's.
- punkinLv 51 decade ago
sure sounds like it,but you are married now and obligated to help him,if he wants help.he may need some sort of counseling or he may be gay either way you've married him and he's apart of your life.If you love him help him if you don't leave him,too bad you didn't pick up on his odd behavior before you got into such a mess.