Are human beings inherently monogomous? Should we have marriage?

Looking at the high divorce rates, one has to wonder whether or not human beings are the problem or marriage is the problem.

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  • YD
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    However illogical, I can raise an equally (im)pertinent question.

    Would someone accept a situation , in today`s world, in which his/her mother is unable to precisely pinpoint who the father is.? At an un impressionable age, at an young age , at maturity .... how will the person view it? The person knows that he/she is alive and kicking and he does not need to know his roots or origin. Still?

    Marriage provides that vital link. It commits two persons , two consenting adults, to own up certain responsibities , for a third person ... their offspring. Fortunately divorce does not take awy the truth and there is no stigma of an unknown origin.

    People of today desire responsibility without commitment . Or commitment without responsibiltiy. For them polygamy or divorce is just a way of life.

    Why do you think the "gays' have arrived in the scene? It partly solved the problem . But the more they try to legalise the thing it , too, will end up with high Divorse rates among the gay too.

  • 1 decade ago

    I recently read an article in Women's health about this. Human Beings are not totally monogomous. We practice social monogamy, similar to swans. They stay with the same mate but that doesn't mean that if hottie swan came along they would say no. 30 % of the babies male swans are raising aren't their own!

    I don't think that means you shouldn't have marriage. It just means that it takes work. If you really love the person you are with I believe you can make it work. My parents did, my aunt and uncle did, my inlaws did...now I don't know if they were faithful the whole time or not. But I know they are glad they are still together.

  • 1 decade ago

    I personally have seen so much divorce around me that I have lost most faith in marriage. I think that it can be very fulfilling for certain people, but those people are rare. For the most part, I believe that as people, we grow and change over the course of our lives and thus being with one person that whole time doesn't really make sense. I think I will have several great loves in my lifetime. Of course, as has been mentioned above, children change the equation. Children need a stable home, preferably with two parents (EVEN two of the same sex), to grow up in. Good thing I don't want kids.

  • 1 decade ago

    Monogamy is certainly inherent to egalitarian societies. Polygamous societies with disparities of class and power end up with a few rich guys with huge harems and poor young men without any potential brides, a recipie for discontent.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Man evolved from monkeys. Monkeys are not monogomous. Marriage was invented by men to keep their "woman" from mating with other dudes. Because man is also possessive (just like monkeys).

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Marriage is not an obligation.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    yes we are. People just need more self control.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i agree with canuka wholeheartedly :)

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