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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsWeddings · 1 decade ago

Me and my boyfriend of 4 yrs are planning to get married next year. He works contrucion and I'll be in Nursing

SCHOOL SEP 2007. HE WANTS TO BE APASTOR AND KNOWS GOD WILL PROVIDE...HE WILL MARRY ME NEXT YEAR, (GOD WILLING) AND PROVIDE FOR US BOTH!! UNTIL GOD PROVIDES HIM A PASTORAL JOB. THE ONLY THING MY PARENTS WORRY ABOUT IS THAT WE WON'T BE ABLE TO SUPPORT OURSELVES FIANCIALLY. I'M NOT B/C GOD WILL PROVIDE AND HE ALREADY GOT'S A $20 CONS. JOB! IN YOUR OPINION SHOULD WE WAIT A BIT...(MORE) OR JUST GO 4 IT ALREADY B/C WE LOVE EACH OTHER SO SO MUCH!!! NY NICE ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT AND SORRY 4 CAPS! ;)

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  • Rossco
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    Stay in construction for the moment is my advice. You keep your nursing job too.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you love each other, and he gets his divinity degree or at least a bachelor's in science or art, specializing in something like theology or teaching, then yes, you should get married. If he or you don't have your degree or R.N, than I think wait. And don't be content with an L.P.N LPNs make comparatively much lower wages, and do much of the "grunt work" formerly done by nurses aides.

    If you still decide you don't want to wait, at least use contraceptives, don't have a baby till you have your finances well under control. You may wish to get a finance manager or adviser. True, G-d provides for all his Creatures, but He gave you intelligence so you can use it, not abuse it. Don't hide your talents, and don't fail to use common sense.

    Why are you using caps, when you didn't in the bold type? Are you feeling stressed?

    Don't think because your husband has a job that pays well now, that you have it made. The economy may very soon continue to worsen, and very much so. Someone will have to pay for all the debt that the present president and the recent congress has racked up. Already, the housing market is slowing. Having a baby would create a hardship that miracles might help, but with proper planning you'll be able to build a home and bring about a family with much less worry.

    Our church was having Christian money management lessons. I'll try to get the name of the text used. It's very informative, and already helping us.

    I am a father of two children, husband to an industrious and frugal wife. We are paying on our own house, have our truck paid off, and are investing for our children's future and our retirement. We did not have children until well into our thirties, and are doing well with our two.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you two are in love, Hey GO FOR IT! but be careful on how much you spend on your nuptials (Money will be tight, until there is a steady income in the household) However, I understand that he wants to be a Pastor of a church, but keep in mine, a congregation does start slow if you are not given a church that already has one established and there is a set beginning pay for the pastor of the church. Your husband may need to have a plan be until he becomes pastor of a church and earning a steady and reliable income. Good Luck and Best Wishes!

    Remember, you can have an awesome wedding without spending an outrageous amount of money and it is not inappropriate to suggest to your guest that you and the groom prefer monetary donations and/or gift cards. (Surprisingly, so people prefer this better, they don't have to shop)

  • 1 decade ago

    If you believe and trust God then why wait. Take that step of faith, he won't lead you into anything without being there seeing you through it. Just know it's always rough being married, but you learn to go without somethings. Even if you starting now every payday setting a little aside into a savings account to have as "fall back"money if you need to have a little to fall back on. Trust God and he will direct your paths. All things are possible when you trust in him.

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  • 1 decade ago

    You can still love each other and be together without being married right? It's not a one or the other.

    When you said "we won't be able to support oursleves" that was the BIG RED FLAG. Money causes tons of stress in relationships- especially young relationships. Continue your love- without the rings- until your future looks brighter.

    God doesn't have a checkbook.

    Source(s): Been there- done that- love DID not conquer all.
  • bluez
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Wait until you're done with school. And yes, God will provide, but when it comes right down to it, you don't have any money and need groceries, He doesn't just rain money down from the sky. Be smart.

  • 1 decade ago

    you are right God will provide for those who take responsibility for their lives, it seems that you have thought this out and are on the right track. get married, have a good life work hard for what you want and remember that none of it is yours anyway, it all belongs to God, and he will give you what you need

  • 1 decade ago

    It is great that you rely on God so much, but God doesn't just hand out blessings, you have to do part of the work and he'll fill in where you can't, just try to keep that in mind and marry the love of your life :)

  • 1 decade ago

    I am in nursing school and my husband works construction... trust me, if you waite until you can afford to take care of yourselves, you may never get married.. So go for it. As long as that is what you really want!!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    if it feels right go for it. im sure ull work it out.

    if u do have some hesitations u can wait. remeber love is patient. and if u guys do love each toehr u will ahve no probblem with that.

    jsut do wat feels right. maybe make a lsit of pros and cons. and then throw it out the window and follow ur heart adn ur gut.

    good luck. and congrats!!

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