co sleeping, yes/no? any experiences?

i have an 8week old baby and just recently (last week or so) she has stopped wanting to sleep in her cot. she will go down for an evening sleep but when she wakes in the night she will only go back to sleep in bed with us. i dont mind her sleeping in our bed but im worried she'll be in it for the next 5 years!!! does anyone have any experiences similar to this? any advice?

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  • PLDFK
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    1 decade ago
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    I was NEVER going to co-sleep when I first had children. Then I started falling asleep with my son in a chair, so I brought him into bed with me. It was great! Everyone got more sleep. He was out by the age of 2. We started putting him in his own bed for 1/2 the night around 18 months. My daughter always co-slept, at 14 months we moved her into big brothers room. Now we are lucky to get a 10 minute cuddle first thing in the morning (they are 5 and almost 3). Co-sleeping is a great experience, and we will being using it again when we have more children. When you are ready to move the little one out of your bed just be firm, make a decision and stick to it. Good luck and enjoy your little one.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I am co-sleeping with my second baby just like I co-slept with my first baby. I put him in the crib sometimes but he sleeps better in my bed and helps with breastfeeding. Co-sleeping when your baby is small and needs to be fed during the night doesn't mean that she'll sleep in your bed for the next five years. My daughter stopped sleeping in my bed at 8-9 months and now she's fine sleeping in her own bed. Good luck.

    Source(s): Mommy of two.
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  • 1 decade ago

    Stop it straight away. If you don't stop it now your child will get into the routine of only sleeping in your bed which will be anightmare to break! Stay strong and when she wakes reassure her you are there and try to send her back to sleep. Even if she continues to cry do not give in and leave her in her own cot. You might not get much sleep but the next night it will not last as long and it won't take very long until she naturally sleeps on her own. Please don't continue to let her sleep in your bed as I know children aged 3 - 7 who still sleep in their parents bed because they did when they were babies and now it is almost impossible to change that routine. Good luck

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  • 1 decade ago

    my daughter is 3 now. i had her sleep with me form the time she was just a few weeks old. i loved having her in bed though, if you do make sure you dont have pillows or heavy blankets as that increases the risk of SIDS. then when she was about 2 i decided i didn't want her in my bed anymore so i decorated her room in her favorite dora the explorer and told her she was big enough to sleep in her own bed. she cried a little but after a few nights she was fine. and she's been sleeping in her room ever since. she will only sleep in your bed as long as you let her. when you decide she has to sleep in her own bed then she will, she may resist and cry at first but she'll get over it. if that seems too much of a hassle then just don't let her sleep in your bed.

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  • 1 decade ago

    My sister, my brother, and I all slept with my mom as babies but were in our own beds when we were 3. It isn't impossible to do this...

    My daughter is 4 months old and still sleeps with me most of the night. When I first brought her home she slept with me the entire night. She was sleeping through the entire night (6 hours) by the time she was 3 weeks old.

    I am gradually weaning her to her crib. I placed her crib in our bedroom and put her down in the crib, and will get her out when she gets restless and wakes up a few hours later.

    I am 100% for co-sleeping as long as you do it safely.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Most babies got through this. It's a comfort thing. They know you are near so they feel more secure. It helps them to sleep better. ALL of my kids slept with me until they were about 4 months old. I don't recommend it after that age because they are starting to roll and move around better, and can fall off the bed easily. As they get older, they sometimes get to a point were they start to sleep better if they are not with you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    i have an eighteen month old son who is doing the same his older brother used to do this as well and he was a nightmare to get back into own bed. you are better off trying the cot next to your bed . you also dont get a good sleep yourself for worrying whether you will roll over onto them or so you tend to lie in a half sleep in the same position making you quite stiff in the morning

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  • 1 decade ago

    If you all sleep well when she's in bed with you, you shouldn't stress it yet. There will be plenty of time to do some changes with the sleeping arrangements. Right now you just need all the energy and rest you can get, so the important thing is that you all sleep.

    Good luck!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Sweetie, if it helps your family get some sleep, do it. I know that you will be doing it safely, and she is 8 weeks old! It isn't going to last forever, and it will calm her to know that you are near by.

    Don't stress about this, and don't feel guilty for doing it. I did it sometimes, and my daughter is a very secure little girl who knows that her mommy cares for her instead of putting her in a cot for her to cry it out.

    There are millions of women all over the world that do this, and their babies are fine.

    If it is safe, and right for YOUR family, go ahead.

    You can fix any problems later, but the odds are that she is going to be fine going to sleep in her cot pretty soon. That's what I found.

    Don't stress about it, and don't worry about the future. The here and now is what is important to your daughter, so focus on that.

    Congratulations on your baby!

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  • 1 decade ago

    EXACTLY like my daughter.......

    we sleep with her.......it's a queen size bed.....and we manage....

    but I love sleeping with her....

    and I found that even when she was 2-3 months old and she slept in the bed.....she slept better and longer....

    and never cried when she woke up because she knew I was beside her.......

    And also right now I love sleeeping with her cuz my husband works nites and I work days......so to have a warm body with me at nite puts me at ease.....and I'm just not ready to let her go just yet.....

    I know people will agree to disagree but I say whatever works!!

    I said I wouldn't do alot of things BEFORE I had the baby,.....but it all changes AFTER the baby arrives!!

    http://www.cosleeping.org/

    http://www.breastfeeding.com/reading_room/co_slepp...

    http://www.attachmentparenting.org/artbenefitscosl...

    http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/general/sleep/cos...

    http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000.asp

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