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K asked in Pregnancy & ParentingAdolescent · 1 decade ago

In backing up the question "Why do adults believe that teens REALLY can't love?"?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ajj4c... Most of the adults had answers like "because you're not emotionally stable.." and stuff like that. Well then why do parents get divorced? Why do people continue to go into one abusive relationship after the other?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    How in the hell is someone going to compare being in love to brain surgery? Anyone can fall in love.....not everyone can perform brain surgery!! What a dumb comparison. I am 27 and I believe teenagers can fall in love because I was a teenager when I fell in love. There are two different kinds, though. There is the puppy love, that I experienced at 14. I know I wasn't in love, although it felt somewhat like it. I was just in heavy like. I had several relationships where I thought I was in love, but never really fell in love until I was 17 and I am still with him and we have a 6 year old together now. My mom fell in love with my dad when she was 17 and married him not long after and had me shortly after she turned 19. My best friend fell in love when she was 16 and was with him for 5 years. So, no one call tell me that teenagers can't fall in love!!!

    Source(s): Personal Experience
  • 1 decade ago

    I think a better answer to that question would have been, because Teens love TOO much. When you are a teenager you throw your whole self and heart into a relationship without any inhibitions. And really that scares parents because;

    A. They don't want to see you get hurt.

    B. When you put so much of your emotion into something like that it stops you from concentrating on the important stuff, like yourself.

    C. It's pretty rare to find a couple who has been together since High School, so adults tend to laugh at the idea that it could happen to you.

    As far as why do adults go into abusive relationships over and over and get divorced on a regular basis?? I don't know. But it sure says something about our society! Perhaps we are evolving into a species that doesn't require marriage or mates to survive.

    Usually the abuse thing is linked to being abused when you are a child so I won't touch that!

    Good luck on your journey for Answers! :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think teenagers can love, completely with their whole being. I think though, and this is for any age, it's hard to determine exactly how the other person feels in return. You may misjudge their feelings, or either side may have feelings that change. At a young age, it's hard to determine if the other person is feeling the same way you are, even if they say they are. When you get older, and have more experience with other people and relationships, then you are able to judge this better. For example, at a young age, if a guy wants to have sex, sometimes he'll say he loves you, blah blah blah, just to get in your pants. It's hard to determine for a young person if all the things they're saying is true. But once you get older, it's easier to tell if a guy just wants you sexually or if he's really sincere. There are a lot of instances where experience with life in general works the same way. So basically, I don't think it's really an age thing, I just think it's experience, which you get more of every day and the older you get. It's obvious then that when you're older, it's easier for most to determine if a relationship is working out or not.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Wow, the answers people leave are ridiculous, and quite sad on their part. I think the most reason why parents say that their teenagers aren't fully capable of falling in love is because most of the time they aren't. Mostly with girls, you hear about guys taking advantage of them. With today's society, our youth is becoming more and more naive and as other's have said "they don't want you to make the same mistakes they did." Although there are some cases where there's exceptions. However, they just want what's best for you. On another note, some parents can very well indeed be jealous of your love life and not want you being happy. They also know that relationships usually cause unwanted stress and can be limits to your success. But I'm in a situation where my parents don't agree with my relationship, and my boyfriend and I have been together for three years. It's ridiculous, but sooner or later they'll loosen up and begin to feel as if they're "letting them make their own mistakes."

    Hope this helps =]

    Source(s): Personal Experiance/views/preferance
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  • 1 decade ago

    Why would people believe that teens can't perform brain surgery? Because they've not yet learned how

    Love is very difficult and most adults have not even learned how to love yet. So it seems even less likely that a teen would know how to love.

    But really it usually just comes down to what type of example you had from your parents. If they really knew what love was while you were growing up and showed you a good example of it then you might have figured it out by the time you were an adult too.

    WK

  • 1 decade ago

    it's not that adults believe that you cannot truly be in love. but adults understand that you have some crazy emotions going on and truly you do. with those crazy emotions it could be easy to confuse a crush or lust for the real thing.

    i was a teen in love once. and i was truly in love. but i didn't end up with that guy. i'm married to someone totally different and we both happen to be friends with my high school sweetheart. i'm really glad that i didn't make any rash decisions while i was with him because my life might not be as happy as it is now if i had.

    so if you are a teen in love, be patient, don't make any rash decisions that could effect the rest of your life. true love waits and true love lasts. show your maturity by making mature decisions, don't run off trying to 'prove' you are in love because it will make you look like an emotionally challenged fool.

    on a side note, i know of a couple that are married now. they were together since they were in elementary school! pretty crazy, huh. so be patient and wait and see. you could be another cool story, or you could add to the statistics of single parents in this country.

  • 1 decade ago

    if we just had this question why ask again you will get the same answers..

    I'm not sure if they are capable of loving or not ..

    but I don't think they should I loved my teens it was great I choose not to have a boyfriend until I was 18 and it was great I got to be a kid for ages while all my mates were worry about pregnancy and what he said to her and etc ...

    ENJOY YOURSELVES YOU WILL REALLY MISS THOSE TIMES.

    I'm now 24 and my husband and I are big kids we still act out and do silly things and have a major laugh .. why try to be serious when you can age with laughter lines and tell grand kids so many funny stories.

    I hope when I'm 80 I'm still playing around and making wise cracks at people that take themselves to seriously I will die very happy.

  • Kailey
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I am a mom to a 17 year old son. I will tell you just like I tell him....what love means to you as a teenager, will change in your twenties, change again in your thirties, and forties....etc....

    People get married and divorced everyday! That is because our society tells us it is ok to give up! It is all about being happy! WRONG!! True love is about sticking by someone even when you are unhappy. True love is about knowing when you need to be strong so your spouse can have a weak moment. Too many people give up because of those weak moments. It is sad, but true.

    Obviously I am not talking about infidelity or abuse...totally different situation, but overall, people are willing to throw their hands up over the most stupid things!

    Bottom line is, understand what marriage is before you go into it. Be willing to forgive the way God forgave us. It is difficult, but possible.

    I believe a teenager can know love, just know that what you consider love at 16 will change many times. But, someone who is 30 needs to remember that same thing. Be willing to fight for your love, and understand what it means to make a commitment BEFORE you get into one!

  • 1 decade ago

    I believe during puberty/teen years, kids think mostly with their hormones - not their common sense/feelings/heart. It's not under later, when children have matured into adults that they really can start to love another human being 100% unconditionally in a romantic relationship. And sadly, some adults never reach that point.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Because some teens say "love" all of the time when they really just have a little crush or its puppy love. I`m a teen and NOT one of those people. I did fall in love, but we were both rockheads and it was one fight after another. We both love each other a lot, but we decided to take a break and try it again in a few years.

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