we are considering adoption-but dont know where to begin?

we are considering adoption-where should we begin?how expensive is it?anything else we should know???

6 Answers

  • 1 decade ago

    I had a family memeber give up a child through private adoption and got to know the new parents and the process they went through a bit.

    Typically you contact a lawyer who specailizes in private adoptions. They will post ads in newspapers for young women who find themselves pregnant and looking for a good family to adopt. The lawyer speaks to the woman and explains the process for her. The prospective parents may pay for all medical bills and some support during the girl's pregnancy to ensure she is well taken care of- I wouldn't expect those costs to go above 3-5 grand but the hospital bills could get to 5k easily. One thing to realize is most young mother's will seek out public medical assistance where they live which covers all prenatal expenses and the birth sometimes.

    The hardest part is you can go through several girls who may at the birth change their minds and they can legally which s heartbreaking and well you are out any money you gave for support during that pregnancy with no recourse.

    The couple I knew had spent about 30k over a period of 5 years between lawyer fees and various 'almost' adoptions where the girl backed out before they adopted finally.

    A good experienced lawyer will give you more details on costs and what to expect today. This was nearly 20 yrs ago I learned about the process.

    Good luck and I hope you get to adopt.

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  • 1 decade ago

    The biggest decision is domestic versus international.

    The answer to that question is determined by a lot of factors. Your ages. The state in which you live. Number of children currently in the household. How quickly you want the process to be. Same race/different race.

    For my wife and myself, that decision was made when we first got engaged. She was adopted; my sister was adopted. When we determined the time was right, we were going to adopt. Little did we realize at that time that we would both in our late thirtes/early forties when that time would come. For us, expediency was an issue as well as our ages. The answer for us personally was Great Wall China Adoption. Don't know if this is the answer for you.

    GWCA does offer a DVD about adoption if you send off for their information. That would be a good place to start.

    Eventually you'll need a social worker to do your homestudy. You'll have to have made your decision about domestic or international as the homestudy may have to be different to accomodate whichever decision.

    Hope this helps.

    Source(s): www.gwca.org
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  • 1 decade ago

    We investigated the possiblity of adopting through the State several years ago, it is cheaper than private adoption but if you want a baby it can take a very long time. Check your local phone book for adoptions through the state. We had to attend an information meeting where we were given some paper work to complete to start the process of interviews with social workers, who also interview your relatives, to make sure you are potential parent material.

    You can also investigate becoming foster parents. When biological parental rights are terminated by the state, foster parents in some states have the first option to adopt children in their care.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I know if you contact the Gladney center of Adoption they can help you out. I was actually thinking about being a seragate (sp) mother lately. I have really considered it because I could not imagine not being able to have kids or something like that . Every family should get to experience having a baby and raising a baby, and being a mother I would love to be able to give that gift to someone. I think all you pay for is the documents from lawyers and the medical bills of the mother giving birth to your child.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Come to Fiji a country in the south Pacific.

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