My boyfriend asked me how much I spent on my new table and 6 chairs. Should I tell him?
I have asked a lot of quetions here about him because we have dated for almost 5 years, and we are more like husband and wife than daters. We sleep together all of the time. We eat together. We are pretty much inseperable, but he doesnt want me to ask questions about his finances, but he wants to know about mine. He wants to know how much my electric bill was, he asks about the money I spent on my car, he asks about how much money I spent here and there, but I am not supposed to ask him anything.
Today, I spent a lot of money on a table and chairs. He asked how much? I dont get what his game is. Am I missing something.
I need no man to pay for anything I own. I work hard, and I make plenty of money to support myself. It drives my boyfriend crazy. I am the 1st woman he has ever had who is his financial equal. He cannot manipulate me or bribe me with money. Not happening here. His former wives sucked up to him because he was the money maker. I am not playing that game because I am financially better off than he is. I suspect that is why he wants to know where my money is going. He is intimidated.
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
I don't think it's any of his business if you spend your money on things unless.....you want to make it his business. Ask him to respect your wishes...whatever they may be...just like you respect his.
- 1 decade ago
Ok, if this is not your husband then the only thing he really needs to know is that the amount you paid is what YOUR MONEY, not his could afford. Just because you two are playing house does not make you married and it does not mean you have to share everything. Then tell him that if he is so concerned about your funds then he should give you some of his so he can keep track of it and not keep asking about how you spend your hard earned cash.. Tell him that when he start letting you keep track of his money is when he will be able to keep track of yours, Maybe if you want to let him.. Until then, enjoy the ride of the current living arrangement with you like you are with him and let it just be that until you both decide to do the right thing by each other and get married.. There is only unity when you both are on the same page, until then it just a joy ride full of experiences you two are sharing.. Believe me, i know.. Been there, done that and will only do it again because I know I want to play and be serious about it with him.
The only commitment you have with one another is to be happy and not hurt each other.. Not to give up ones self just because you have invested time in each other.. That a choice you both made and its equal.. Never to late to re-access the relationship to determine where its really headed before you or him invest more time than what has already passed..
- melcar12345Lv 41 decade ago
I don't understand this either but I tell you what....I wouldn't tell him! This sounds like some form of control on his part. I would respond by saying "You know what's funny...you always want to know (insert all of the above) but yet it doesn't seem like you want me knowing anything about your finances. Why do you always ask about my finances, but never seem to share any of your finances with me? This doesn't seem quite fair." Two people being together for 5 years should not have to hide their finances from each other. Especially when you two seem to be really close and in tune with each another.
- LMJLv 41 decade ago
I think this is a relationship headed for disaster. I would think twice before committing to this man. He's way too controlling.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
Whu not sooner or later he's going to end up paying for it???......ROB