why do u ladies keep.........?

why do girls keep that stupid box!!! you know...the "EX" box.....apparently all those relationships failed...so why do you keep all the crap to remind you of that???? and after you start a new relationship dont you think that box should get trashed??? would you want your man to have one of those boxes???? please explain ladies!!!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Because u play with yourself at night...

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  • 1 decade ago

    That box no matter what happened in those past relationships is our way of remembering...not for any other purpose than to recall the lessons that we learned and that box has nothing to do with whatever relationship we are presently in and it's not the business or the concern of the person we are dating now. I keep a box just like many women do, but I don't go thru it and show things to my new man...it doesn't involve or concern him. It is something that belongs personally to me...not him. If he snoops around and finds it and gets his feelings-- hurt or gets pissed...then he shouldn't have been snooping in the first place and most likely I'll dump him if he acts irrational and ignorant about it. My memories are mine and if he doesn't like it he can be a memory too...I don't keep company or have contact with anyone who's trinkets, letters and such are in the box anymore and I don't keep their phone numbers and so on...so the box as far as I'm concerned is not an issue. If my having such a box causes my new guy to feel somehow inadequate...that's his problem not mine and he'll need to mature and get over it.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well i kept all my ex's stuff casue he was a stupid jerk off asshole it just reminds me that I'm better off and men will be men no matter how much they say they love you...or to remember the good time I have some "the box" too and not all my ex's were jerks but we grow up and move on and change things just didn't work out but I'd like to always remember them. Its like a year book, you look at it every once in a while and just think back.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I don't have one! I think the past is the past and if u had one then its should defiantly be thrown away in the start of a new relationship! but i don't see the point 2 them either why would you wanna go bad and look at stuff from a failed relationship?

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  • 1 decade ago

    I have no "ex" box. I got rid of everything associated with them. My fiance on the other hand has a trunk that he keeps all kinds of stuff from his past girlfriends( grade school stuff even) in. This used to upset me to no end, but then I thought well he is with me, and we have now been together for 12 years and are in the process of building a house and getting married. Unless she is looking through it all the time and reminiscing I would let her have her past and prepare for the future.

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  • anna
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I've never done it; but some girls like to keep little "trophies" of past relationships. This shores up their self-esteem. And some like to play at sorrow, you know, dig out the old letters and crud and have a good cry over nothing. Those are the ones that read romantic fiction almost exclusively.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It's not just girls...guys keep things too some times! I never saw the point of that either. An ex is an ex for a reason!

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  • yblur
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I think they do it because girl are way more emotional than guys are. It's all about memories and stuff like that. It's kind of abnoxious, I know. It's also a double standard, because if guys were to have an ex-box it wouldn't be ok either.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It's not about the ex. It's about us! Our memories. The first flower a boyfriend gave you, is not about the guy that gave it to you it's the event of receiving the first flower. Or the first kiss, or prom pictures or whatever. It's like a little story of your life. You may hate the ex but the Huge Teddy bear he won for you at the fair is still cool. Does that make any sense?

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  • 1 decade ago

    The only things i have is letters. Its not in a box its with all my other mail.

    I keep them because they are sweet. Not to remind me of what i had, but more to recall old memories.

    Its nice to look back

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  • 1 decade ago

    ok just because we keep them doesnt mean we still love them or anything along them lines

    its just that to me it helps me get over him.

    Everything he calls me bacause he wants me back i look in that box and see all the good times and then i think why did i every leave him then i start to remeber all the times he cheated on me and all the fights we had and i remeber i left him for the wonderful guy i have now and it just makes me love my new bf even more

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